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Speaking of marrying old...
I just remembered this when I read about China's Leftover Women. My mom told me a couple of years ago that "If your aunt isn't married by now, she will probably never get married."
She turned 30 in October for goodness sakes! She graduated college and got her masters of theology and has lived in 3 states in 5 years.
I can't wait to hear what she says about my sister if she makes it to the ripe old age of 30 before getting married. (She's 24 and doesn't have a boyfriend)
After the FB drama I posted about on ML, I want to live in a bubble. I'm surrounded by idiots.
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Re: Speaking of marrying old...
Not to be an AW but I'm 26 (27 on the 17th) and have been divorced for a little over a year. I've casually dated, but nothing serious.
Ive already been written off as an "old maid" by numerous people.
"oh, being single for the rest of your life won't be so bad!"
Really people? It's been a year. Can we slow it down. Jeez
I was 26 when I met my FI and had already pretty much been written off by most of my family as either a lesbian or a crazy-cat-lady-to-be.
My cousin got married at 25. My grandmother told her she was too old to wear a white dress or have a sit-down meal at the reception. Buffet only.
o_o
This reminds me of the Beverly Hillbillies episode where Granny dresses Ellie Mae like a 12 year old to disguise the fact that she's "past her prime".
!!!
I know plenty of men and women who did not get married until after they turned 30! This is terribly common amongst people who pursue further education or certain careers, or heck, just choose to wait to get married for their own reasons or circumstances mean they don't get married until later.
I met my husband when I was 29, and married him a few months after I turned 30. He was 35.
What happened to not getting married until you were ready/the relationship was ready/you were with the right person, whatever age that happens?
Also, even if she chose never to marry, or it did not happen, there is nothing wrong with that either and she should not have to be told she is an old maid as a result! Ugh!
I didn't even meet my ddh until I was 37! This was pre-2001 and there was a statistic even then that said I had a better chance of being killed by a terrorist than getting married.
Take that, statistics class I wrangled my way out of taking ...
Hmm, why does it not suprise me from reading your post that you never took statistics... Maybe you should have.
WTF, 30 is Old Maid territory?!
I hate that term (Old Maid) by the way and the fatalistic "she'll never get married" if she is not wed by 25 thing is absolute bullshyt. I've said it before and I'll say again-- sometimes you just aren't in the right place until you get older. Why is that a bad thing in some cultures?
Where I was raised (the south) people got married straight out of high school on the regular. I dated my high school BF for 4 years and he asked me to marry him at 17! I declined not because I didn't love him or feel like we could be happy, but that I wanted to go to college, travel and all that good stuff before I married. I felt awful but given how things ended up I am really glad I didn't go that route. I feel like I am still getting to know myself in many ways and that would have been a disaster!
I think I would rather do my thing and marry at time that is right for me (even if it is later in life) then be twice married and twice divorced by 25 (which a number of my high school friends are).
I met DH right after my 32nd Birthday and married him 1 1/2 years later at 33.....
I remember the terrorist statistic - they stated it in a Meg Ryan/Tom Hanks movie - Sleepless in Seattle.
This is the most confusion thing ever. I mean, I don't agree with the white dress logic but I understand the strange trip one takes to get there.
But buffet only? What?
Yeah, I have no idea where that came from either. Maybe the reasoning was only young virgin brides deserve big fancy weddings??