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intimacy issue?
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now and in the beginning of our relationship arousal wasn't an issue for me I felt tingles everywhere it was intense..but for the past few months my arousal has been lower when we are together at its minimum and I don't know why the fire has died down. Do you have any advice on why this has happened?
Re: intimacy issue?
Definitely needs more information for an opinion. It could be that the "honeymoon stage" of the relationship died down a little, or it could be a more serious problem. The first few months with an new partner generally are more explosive, as things are new and unfamiliar. My H and I have been together for 4 years, and of course the first 6 months were tingly, exciting, and explosive. As we forged a life together, the sex remained as amazing, but took on a different quality. The butterflies of a new relationship weren't the same, instead it took on a feeling of comfort and understanding. To be honest, I prefer the feelings now, we are honest with each other, comfortable, and the sex took on a more comfortable feeling. Though it is still as intense and wonderful, it is not the butterflies of a new experience, it is the feeling of being loved and the peace of being with the person who you trust and adore.
It may be that you are settling into that stage, but the fact that you say your arousal is not where it used to be begs more questions- did you start a new birth control? Is the relationship having other issues? Are either one of you more stressed than usual? Do you feel that perhaps you two may have settled into a routine rather than exploring new experiences together?