Trouble in Paradise
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TIP on second tri:
http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/60817700.aspx
Sorry not clicky. In short, husband running off to his friend after every fight, calling wife a ***. Friend is now texting wife and telling her off. Husband also lies about money. She can use some advice.
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i cant tell if i'm just being hormonal??
k, i really hate to have to get serious here, but i honestly cant tell if i'm upset because i'm hormonal or if i have a real reason to be upset. ok, here it goes.
when my husband and i get into arguments, he always calls his friend Ben and tells him about it. only he doesnt just tell him about the problem, because he never listens to find out the problem and just takes it as me yelling at him, so he i know this is about what he says: "she's such a ***. i do everything for her and its never good enough. she's such a ***. blah blah blah" i have never thought much about it, becuase i jsut figured that it was angry talk.
well the other day, his friend, Ben out of nowhere started texting me, telling all this harrassing things, like i'm and "evil *** who turned my husband into a spineless wimp" i just blew it off. told him he was hurting his friend and their relationship. i told him i wasnt going to tell my husband about it, because he didnt need the stress and he didnt need to have his feelings hurt by such a low life,but then he said he was gong to tell him anyway.
so that night, when my husband got home, i told him. i glossed over alot and told him i wasnt mad about it, jus thought his friend thought he was defending him. so the next day, they worked together, and i even though i kinda sugar coated it, i expect my husband to confront his friend on some level. HE DIDNT! he didnt say anything to him about it other than that i told him about it. nothing. i atleast thought he would ask him about it.
so now that i'm a bit upset about him not defending me, i started to think more about it, then my feelings got hurt more because i realized that my husband calls me names behind my back and doesnt see whats wrong with it. he says that i talk bad about him, i said, "no. i talk to my friend about our problems.. whatever the specific problem is, i have to talk to someone else,l because if i try to talk to you, you get defensive, mad and go off and call me a ***!" i see this as a huge difference. i have never put him down, called him names or insulted him.
so my questions: 1. do i have a right to be upset because he didnt confront his friend about sending harrassing text messages to his PREGNANT wife?
2. do i have a right to be upset that he gets mad at me and calls me names behind my back to his friend?
also, this is kind of my thinking right now.. i was willing to let this jerk *** talk to me and pretend it didnt happen for the sake of my husbands feelings, but why should i discount my feelings when he obviously doesnt care about mine when he results to insulting me. (in my opinion, is the lowest form of communication).
k, looking forward to your objective opinion. thanks!
Well that's just down right terrifying.
Was it Kuus who recently questioned why people keep having babies with men and THEN expecting them to change?
Well, I questioned why people have sex with men and then expect to be married to someone totally different, but yeah.
My favorite:
Yeah. That post had me
This about sums it up.
Her updates get worse and worse. He's addicted to weed (according to her) and spends his money on 'weed, candy, comics,tattoos, lotto tickets' and when he runs out of money (often) he runs to the money fairy (his mommy).
But it's ok. She's given him an 'ultamatum' of quitting the weed by the time the baby arrives.
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Why, oh why do people keep having kids with drug addicted losers who can't even afford to put gas in the car? I know gas is expensive, but come on...dude's gas light is on and he doesn't have $10 to put a few gallons in? I'd hate to see what happened when something truly catastrophic happened and they have ZERO money to bail themselves out.
And running to mommy for money? Way to enable your loser addict son there, genius.
But I'm sure he'll totally stop smoking up when the baby's born. Sure.