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I have a confession...

Last night my best friend told me she was pregnant.  She literally just found out.  And I am super excited for her.  But at the same time, I am beyond jealous.  I havent felt this kind of real envy since I was a child...its making me kind of depressed.
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Re: I have a confession...

  • Completely understandable. You an be happy for someone and sad for yourself at the same time. I'm sorry thought because it has to be hard.

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  • Don't worry about feeling sad for yourself.  At least you had a happy reaction for her as well.  When my SIL got pregnant, her cousin called her and said, "How DARE you getting pregnant before me! I am the oldest and I should have the first great grandbaby".  It's like really? It's not a competition! Having babies is one of the most exciting things in this world!
  • Completely understandable.  And completely normal.  When I found out a couple of weeks back that my step-sister got engaged, I had a similar reaction.  Not that I'm chomping at the bit to get remarried, but it was still tough.
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  • I have been getting this more and more often lately.  FI and I practically stalked our neighbor across the street until we could confirm that she was pregnant. lol
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  • Understandable... but at the same time, I can related to the other side. 
    My bff went through infertility and ended up having to do in vitro.  When I got pregnant with my second child, I was so scared to tell her. I didn't want to hurt her or make her feel badly at all. She ended up having to find out via facebook because she wouldn't return my calls---- turns out she was avoiding me because she was waiting until it was confirmed and safe to tell me she was pregnant also.

    Basically I'm just saying it's ok to feel happy for her, sad for yourself. But remember that she may be having some similar feelings (if she knows you are trying/having trouble).  

     

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  • I totally understand!  Last year when my friend got pregnant I had a total meltdown.  I was so jealous and angry because it was a "woops" baby, and DH and I have always wanted kids but were waiting until we were stable.  It was so upsetting.  However, I kind of threw myself into getting her gifts and now hanging out with her and her kid, so it doesn't bother me anymore.

    I'm sorry you're feeling jealous and sad.  It can be really hard!

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  • I remember feeling the exact same way before I got pregnant with Emma.  Two friends of mine at work found out they were pregnant, and while I was so excited for them... I couldn't help but wonder when my turn was going to come.  It didn't help that this was at work so naturally all the other women were obsessed with the two pregnancies and kept asking me when I was going to get pregnant as well.

    It's completely natural to feel that way, so try not to be so hard on yourself.  It doesn't make you any less of a friend.  It just makes you human.  I'm sorry you're having the feelings you're having though.

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  • Thanks for the words of comfort ladies.
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