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20/20 from 12-2-11 (spoilers)
The story about the kids in foster/adoptive care that are on so many drugs made me so sad because it's ... its so true. And it's not just those kids that are in the system through foster/adoption, it's those lower socioeconomic kids, too. Kids that live in apartment buildings are given ADD/ADHD medications on a much larger scale than those that live in the suburbs. It's not always because they actually HAVE it, its because they don't have a yard to go outside and play. Or that their apartments aren't in very good neighborhoods so they CAN'T go outside and play after certain times.
Why is it that so many doctors just throw medication at these kids? I have an interview on Monday for a job where I would be the family liaison between foster/adoptive families and the state ... and this story made me want it so much more to be a voice for those families and children.
Re: 20/20 from 12-2-11 (spoilers)
I'm going to DVR it we adopted our daughter from foster care but we got her when she was 3 weeks old so luckily we were able to control a lot of things in her life (medically speaking) so far she is perfectly healthy but I plan on being wary or anyone wanting to her on anything down the road, I don't want her being a foster child to be the reasons. Everyone thinks that foster kids are damaged goods and that they all have issues, this is not the case.
Good luck with your interview foster/ adoptive families need a lot of support it's nice to know that there are resources for them, we were lucky to have a great case worker and a licensing worker that we dealt with all the way from placement to finalization of her adoption.
This is absolutely true. Horrible, but true. And foster parents are willing to sometimes exaggerate the extent of behavioral problems kids have in order to receive additional funding as well. It's so many problems- issues of attachment, abandonment, isolation, frequent moves, plus the trauma that resulted in their needing to be removed in the first place- physical and sexual abuse, severe neglect, prenatal drug exposure. People just don't understand what these kids are really dealing with, don't know how to help them cope, and medication calms them down. I am a social worker and I see it all the time.
I will have to watch this episode.
And THANK YOU to all who have adopted out of foster care.
Wait, what? SSI is paid to the family on behalf of a child if they are diagnosed with ADD/ADHD? Is this for all familes, not just for foster families? If this is true, this has just made a situation I am aware of so much clearer now.
Yes, SSI is paid to ALL families, not just foster families, if a child has special needs, including dyslexia..... And the SSI payment for a child is generally greater than the welfare benefit of that one child, plus the food stamp stipend for that one child, so it is an actual cash incentive to have a diagnosis for a child, esp if you are otherwise receiving govt benefits.
Thanks for this startling and eye-opening revelation.