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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Do opposites attract?
My XH and I were definite opposites. I guess we were attracted to each other at some point and time but in the long run it ended up not working for us (him: very controlling and me: very mellow and easy going and on top of that bad communication). My now H and I are very similar and get along much better than I ever did with my X. It is nice to be able to have an opinion that matters which wasn't always the case in my previous life.
So for me the "opposites attract" ended up not working so well but most of that had to to with him being a control freak. Then I wised up....
Similar values and goals, but different personalities here too. I'd say we're complementary rather than opposite-- we help balance each other.
He's fairly shy, but in social settings will 'push' himself to be outgoing, so can find parties, etc overwhelming and tiring. I like to be out and about-- never found a party I didn't like (ok, well not really, but you follow), so I can find the homebody thing boring.
He's also infinitely more responsible in general terms than I am (he's got better saving/retirement plan habits than I do) but yet I'm more responsible about specific deadlines e.g. credit card due dates. It's a really weird combo, but it works-- I 'take over' the day-to-day/monthly payments, so he doesn't forget/ignore them and he 'holds me back' from over-splurging/not saving.
Despite occasional frustrations w/ ea other, I do feel that he's for sure a good influence on me
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In some ways we are very much alike, such as our core values/morals. But in others we are total opposites.
He has the patience of Job - I am very impatient. He's very techy - I get by. I'm a bit crafty - he is not creative at all. I love to read - he only reads gaming or computing magazines. He's a very social person and never meets a stranger. I'm a very private person. I'm a very emotional person while he is not.
I think our personalities compliment each other well.
We want the same things out of life and have the same opinions on many subjects, but in many ways we are total opposites. Like: He has never read an entire novel in his life, whereas I get antsy if I don't read anything all week. He would be totally okay for the rest of our lives without any IRL friends, I need PHYSICAL REAL LIFE company other than him every once in a while. He would love for all the walls in the house to be white. I can't stand all the rooms to be the same color.
So, lots to argue about but lots to bring us together : )
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