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Color me shocked.
So, DH dropped a bombshell on me the other day. He told me that, once this assignment is over, and if we move home, he wants to consider joining the Army National Guard. He comes from a military family (as do I), so the concept isn't 100% foreign to me. We'd talked before about how he wished he would have done something like that during college (ROTC), but I didn't expect this now!
So...yeah...we clearly have some time before this assignment is over (if we even go home after this), but I'm still in the fragile, "omg...what if he's deployed and dies" mindset. So...anyone have any experience with this? I know a few of you ladies are military wives...care to talk me down?
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Re: Color me shocked.
I don't know how old your H is, but by the time you "maybe head home", he may be too old to join?
LOL...he's not quite there yet. He turned 32 this year...you can join as an officer up until late 30s, though some guard groups up to 41 years. I know we'll be overseas awhile, but not that long.
Thanks Kelly! I know I sound like a sniveling beebee here, but lord...I'm a worrier.
IF (big if) he really is serious AND (big and) stays serious, I'd suggest that you go with him to talk with the recruiter/detailer type. In my admittedly limited experience (my brother and couple reservist/national guard friends), I've heard that they are usually straight forward and will give you truthful answers-- obviously no one can answer deployment questions with 100% certainty, but they can give you recent stats for your H's career field/occupational series.
My brother is an AD civil engineer-- he's been in since '89. He's been deployed once for 9mos (not an active warzone, but not a per se good time). That's been fine for his career. Similarly, many AD JAG friends haven't been deployed very often and are fine professionally. That said, my AD USMC line officer pal has been deployed more times than I can remember since I met him in '98-- he volunteers to some degree, b/c it's career enhancing as a line officer (and, although he's now AD, he was a reservist for some of the tours).
My point is, branch of service and profession can make a difference. GL with your decision!
Thanks VA! Odds are, he'd be doing something engineering (he's an electrical engineer), but of course, it's what they need him in. We're lucky that, if he does decide to do it, the company he works with now is really great with supporting Guard members that work for them, so that's helpful, at least.