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Argugment with H yesterday...
H's family has an "early" Christmas party every year for family members who can't seem to make time to visit on the actual Christmas holiday. Yesterday was the day. I told H that he was not bringing the kids with him. I obviously was not going. His attitude towards me lately has been very abusive, and I was uncomfortable with him taking our children to his family's function without me present. Furthermore, his family is full of alcoholics and they use very bad language all the time. I don't like my children being around that kind of behavior, especially when I'm not there to monitor what is happening. H never does anything if our children are at risk when his family is involved....he is basically scared/intimiadated by his family.
So, H's response..."you really are stupid for going through with a divorce, I mean, no other man would ever want to be married to you." Then he called me a wh*re. He also told me I had no right keeping the children. I told him, "take me to court, then."
I had every right. I was thinking of their wellbeing. They didn't want to go anyway!!
Re: Argugment with H yesterday...
You're not going to be able to keep your H from taking the kids forever. Even if he is around his family and you don't like them. You're not going to be able to control that and you'll have to learn to let go.
As for his comment about no other man ever wanting you...yep, I heard that one too. And so did Ex's ex-wife...imagine that! They think by telling you that it'll make you want to stay with them...hey, I can't get anything else, might as well stay. Right? Nope...only made me run faster.