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Ugh, my mom finally asked about Christmas
My therapist and I decided that the best way to deal with Christmas this year is just not seeing my family, since I have so many problems with them and am slowly distancing myself from them. So my mom finally called and asked when we would be spending Christmas together. I told her what my therapist and I decided was best, "DH and I are spending Christmas alone this year. We've never done it before and thought it would be nice."
I did lie and tell her that we weren't spending time with his family, but that seemed like the easier path.
She kept trying to get me to do it on such and such day instead, or whatever, but I held firm and repeated myself, as well as told her that if I end up getting this job, I'll be working all of the days around Christmas anyway, and we just won't have time. I told her that I would be mailing them their gifts. I did compromise and say that I will at least call her on Christmas.
She started crying and hung up.
I am pretty sure I'm supposed to feel guilty, but I can't decide if I actually do.
If you don't know my family background, I'll try to find the post I made about it a few months ago.
Ugh. Crappy start to the day.
Re: Ugh, my mom finally asked about Christmas
There is NOTHING wrong w/ not feeling guilty
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
You know, I really don't. I'm doing what's best for me. That's what's important here. I know she wants something else, but it would be detrimental to my health, and she isn't willing to see that. So, no, I don't feel guilty.
I do not look forward to the inevitable call from my father and/or grandmother, though. I guess I'll just put it on repeat.
Good for you.
I really hope you enjoy your relaxing Christmas at home with your husband. You shouldn't be made to spend a holiday with people that are going to add more stress to your life than joy. (((hugs)))
Good for you! Stick to your guns. No need to feel guilty.