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Would you be pissed/annoyed?
So my cousin (who is a guy) and I were really close growing up, and he was more like my older brother...
Well, we had drifted apart until we started emailing about 2 years ago...and in one of his emails, he said something along the lines of that I better not get pregnant without being married. Basically in a big brother tone.
Well, I found out that he knocked up some girl (who is two years younger than me) and he married her just because he got her pregnant...
Would you be annoyed/pissed? I'm over it now, I'm just curious to see what other people would feel...
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Re: Would you be pissed/annoyed?
My personal feeling is that I would not be pissed/annoyed by his life choices, although I would have initially felt defensive/annoyed about someone lecturing me in a big brother tone.
Best of luck.
I'd probably think it's hypocritical, but people are often hypocrites.
Also, accidents happen. I'd let it go.
I changed my name
It's tough because everyone hates hypocrites, but who isn't a hypocrite at least once in their lives?
I would just let it go.
Absolutely not, I would find it quite humerous. He looks like a hypocritical a$$ so whats there to be pissed about?! And I wouldnt go out of my way to say something but since I'm somewhat of a smarta$$ the next time I saw cousin I may say looks like the advice you gave me came back to bite you in the a$$.
After I was done being upset, I also found it quite hilarious. And I see that you like the word a$$
I just hope that he realizes what is in store for him for the rest of his life...a new wife and a new baby...
I agree with PPs that I would find it hypocritical, but my first thought was that perhaps he feels that he made a mistake doing so himself, and is making the comment due to his own unhappiness with his situation. Especially since you mentioned that the only reason he married was the pregnancy- perhaps he is dissatisfied with his life and doesn't want to see the same thing happen to you.
Though I totally understand the urge to yell "HYPOCRITE!". Don't let it bother you, it's his own unhappiness coming to the surface most likely.
~Benjamin Franklin
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This, totally.
Maybe he realizes how hard life is when you are tied to someone you wouldn't be for the sake of a baby you didn't intend to make.
I would give him the benefit of the doubt and hope he wanted me to learn from his mistakes.
A few of you are annoying me....I said that it doesn't matter to me anymore I was just wondering what your reactions would be. And some of you think he told me that after he ku that girl. It was before he even met her...
And I told you exactly what my reaction would be. I wouldn't give it a second thought. And, frankly, the fact that my post annoyed you tells me that you *are* spending too much of your time looking for things to be annoyed at. It really, truly isn't worth it--life is far, far too short.
I would be annoyed. I don't care for anyone giving me unsolicited advice when it's none of their business, but I typically ignore that stuff and move on.
And him getting his girlfriend pregnant after he made that comment to you, would make no real difference to me. This kind of stuff happens all the time.