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Spin off the FB bully videos going around....
Were you ever bullied in school?
Did you ever do the bullying? If so, what do you think about it looking back?
I have never done the bullying, but I have had borderline bullying done to me ,but it was my freshman year of college. I know it seems silly and those people I'm sure thought of it was "fun" but it sucked big time. It was my roomates brothers and some of their friends. Looking back on it I was just a shy college girl and probably was an easy target as I never stood up for myself then. I don't talk to any of those people today as I cut them out of my life as soon as I moved.
Re: Spin off the FB bully videos going around....
I was not the nicest girl in elementary school and 7th grade-I can remember teasing a lot of people and excluding people. I am ashamed of this now. But I sure did get what was coming to me...
In 7th grade I went on vacation with my family and came back and none of my friends would talk to me, no one would sit with me etc. Some girl started spreading rumors about me that I didn't shave my armpits (it seems so silly now) and people were really mean to me-wrote things on my locker, sent nasty notes, etc. It was so bad that I had to switch schools. I remember the counselor and principal did NOTHING to help me. I can't even imagine what it would have been like if FB or texting would have been around. I can't imagine what my parents went through-I remember crying every night and begging to stay home. I know how much I hurt when my girls cry, it must be so hard on a parent to know your child is the victim of a bully.
I am grateful for it now because I made some amazing friends at my new junior high, and one of my friends is the guy who helped my husband and I get together. I use this experience as a teacher and I am very honest to my students about how I behaved and what happened to me.
I was teased pretty bad in jr. high (7 & 8) leading into first part of high school. I had 46 people in my class and this one girl who was the same build as I, thought I was trying to steal her boyfriend so got most of the girls against me and got most of the guys against me and started calling me free whilly. Again, the girl who was mad was the same build as me and I was not fat. I wasn't skinny minnie but not fat.
I got tired of it and hated school that I eventually moved to a new school. Even up till graduation did that girl continue to think I wanted her boyfriend, now husband. And with the wonderful world of facebook, I'm friends with her husband and I'm now smaller than her and her husband. I'm still no skinny minnie but karma is a *** sometimes. her husband was always still nice to me despite her attempts.
What I did learn, I'm trying to teach my stepdaughter as she is in middle school. Right off the bat, a friend of hers was telling her not to be a friend to another girl. She first seemed proud that she was doing this and I asked her why her friend doesn't want to be friends and she didn't know. We had a long talk about how if she allows her friends to dictate who she can and can not be friends with, one day that same friend may tell others to not be friends with her and now she is up a creek with no paddle.....or friends. Needless to say, she told her friend she was still going to be nice to this girl and she freaked out and threatened to stop being her friend. They are still friends but I see their relationship as a rollercoaster because the drama still continues every few weeks.
I see this is now just the beginning of drama for several more years.
So glad not to be in school anymore.
I was teased pretty badly from 6-8th grade. I was overweight (like, I weighed more then than I do now and it was ALL due to poor eating habits and lack of exercise) and got $hit on for it. I remember a specific time where I was walking home from school and a school bus drove by and several kids put their window down and called me a fata$$. It seriously haunts me to this day and think that it's partially why I am slightly OCD about my weight. (Not like eating disorder but just constantly scrutinizing myself.)
Another moment that sticks out in my mind - one day a kid in my 6th grade class took this long hard plastic thing - don't know really what it was, something for his skateboard or something - and smacked me HARD in the back with it. I didn't say anything because he did it in front of a bunch of people to look all cool and I didn't want them to see me upset. I got home that night and it had actually cut my skin where it hit me. I still remember this kid's name and to this day every now and again I think about that incident and him and secretly hope that someone gave him some sort of STD or something just to make myself feel better.
However there was a girl in 6th grade that was severely bullied. I didn't actively bully her, but I also didn't make friends with her, invite her to my (boy/girl) b-day party, etc. To this day, I feel guilty that I let it go on. :-(
Absolutely. I was the tallest girl my whole life, both in elementary and high school, and I was an only child of parents who were out of towners in a town where everyone was related to each other in some way. The school system I went through was notorious for ignoring bullying of all students until they had an attempted in-school suicide about 5 years ago and all of the supervisory staff was fired.
I got picked on for being tall, being in accelerated English classes, not eating school lunches (my parents didn't believe in processed foods), and for actually liking school. By high school I just ignored most of it, but my nickname was "Giraffe" from 9th-12th grade.
I think there is some Karma in life-most of the girls who were the big bullies in my school have had little success in the adult world.