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Blessed to have a job...but hate my career. ugh. (long, sorry)
So everyone thinks I am nuts because I dont like being a nurse....like, at all. I always get the "Oh, but you're so good at it!" - Psh...does being good at it matter, really? Or..."but you make so much money!" PSHHH - It is decent, yes. BUT not enough for the stuff we do. And i love the "but you worked so hard for so long to become a nurse!" - I KNOW....pretty shi**y, isnt it!
It isnt that I dont like where I work. I really actually like the other people that work there, and (most) of the patients (i work in pediatrics) are great. I have worked in a hospital and a doctors office, and I just dont like any of it.
I always say I wish I had never gone into Nursing School in the first place. When I was in my last semester I seriously considered dropping out because I had this sinking feeling that it wasnt right for me....but I just chalked it up to being burnt out from school.
I am also a photographer (surprise!)..bet you didnt see that one coming! I actually graduated from college with two art degree's before ever going into nursing. Once I graduated, my family...and now husband then BF talked me into getting something else more.....stable. I guess now I am feeling crappy for not sticking to my guns and standing up for myself in the first place when it came to MY career choice.
Unfortunately, until I make more money doing photography I cant quit my nursing job. And dont get me wrong, I am very blessed to have a job that helps pay bills, ect. I am just having a rough day/week....ect.
Anyone else having similar problems with hating their career?
Re: Blessed to have a job...but hate my career. ugh. (long, sorry)
I truly believe it's important to be happy in life. At one point both DH and I were fortunate enough to be able to leave jobs we both hated. DH went to school for 3 years, got a career and HATED it. He went back to school to be a truck driver, we've never looked back. He loves his job. While the status and title of his truck driving job is not nearly as desirable as what he did before, he's happy, and while it sounds corny, it really is what matters. I am a nurse, and love being one. I have left units that have been horrendous, and have moved around a bit before settling into L&D which I love.
Good Luck to you. I hope your photography business becomes what you want it to be and you can be happy doing something you love.
Thank you mrsseguin! Its a hard thing to explain, and most people just dont understand...(hence talking on a forum about it). LOL.
...im working hard to get my business going. I just pray it takes off quickly.
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I try to remember that working hard on photography and growing a successful business will get me where I want to go...which is doing something I love every day, and being my own boss. I know I can do it.
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If you really want to get back into photography, perhaps you should talk to your DH about how that's what you really want to do, and how you can make that happen. I know a lot of people who have slowly transitioned from their previous careers into photography until they were ready to make it a FT gig.
And I would also look into WHY you decided to let your DH and your family have so much influence over your life. It's YOUR life, especially as far as your family is concerned. You deserve to be happy in it.
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Thank you, I was typing fast...in the other posts youll see it was spelled correctly.
I do talk to DH about this quite openly. He is totally supportive of the change, and we agree that it needs to grow before any major job quitting can happen. He just recently was offered a position for a nearby county, which is amazing because his job used to be the unstable income one. Now we will have regular numbers to play with.
I was young and stupid...and I have always really been a "people pleaser". My mom was always one of those types who didnt take risks when it came to making money...and believed a stable career being unhappy is better than a flexible one that makes you happier every day. Having your (future) husband, and mother pushing constantly for that can break you down. But it definitely is not by any means their "fault". It was ultimately my decision to allow myself to be swayed. I know better now, and I have learned a lot about myself. So, for that, I am thankful for the experience. I never would have known I didnt really like it unless I experienced it.
All I can do at this point is move forward...and work toward what I really want.
ETA: I love your siggy pic! That is too cute!
Its hard to be in a career you're not happy with and its def tough to talk about work problems right now with so many people unemployed.
Maybe you could try home care kind of nursing with like the VNA. It might have more flexible hours, and you'd only have to worry about one patient or family at a time.
Exactly. I definitely dont want to come accross as ungrateful. I am very blessed to have a job in this tough economy.
How long were you a nurse before you quit and went back to school?
...and good for you! I am sure some comments are...meh. But I hope you get good ones too.
Well I don't have a "career", I just have a job...
I totally understand going to school for something stable even if it's not what you want. DH and I have been living together since I was 17 so it's never been JUST about me it's always been about US. That's why I ended up an entry level secretary, it was a job and we needed money. DH hates his job too but he refuses to look for a new one because his job is stable and he only makes as much as he does because he's been there so long and he's a "you're not supposed to be happy at work" believer. But I can't stand the idea of hating my job for the rest of my life just because it's what people do so I finally decided to go to school for something I'll enjoy. I'm going into psychology (forensics to be exact cuz I wanna work for the FBI
) and when I first told DH he was nervous that I would spend all this money on student loans and come out and never be able to get a job in the field, but overall he supports me. My dad, on the other hand, has always pushed me to go back to school and said he would give me some money to put towards tuition. When he found out what I was going for he told me he wasn't going to give me money for a fantasy career and actually tried to push me to go into nursing instead. I ended up going for what I wanted but I was definitely upset that my dad was disappointed in me about my decision and it was hard to not give in to him and just do what he wanted.
So yea, F that. If you know there's something that you'll be happy doing that can pay the bills figure out a way to make it happen!
DH and I have also been living together since we were fresh out of high school. Any decision I have really ever made has been "our decision"...including school, jobs, ect.
and I plan on it! GL to you!!
Regarding other people's comments, it can get a bit tiresome and annoying but some people just aren't going to get it and I don't expect them to. I only have my happiness to worry about and I do NOT regret my choice one bit.
Good luck to you. I hope you find a way to do what you love.
What don't you like about it? Would moving floors or specialties make any difference? What about critical care, palliative care, oncology- something different? What about moving to be an RN Case Manager?
If it is nursing in general, is there a way for you to work 3 12s (if you aren't already) and then have 4 other days to try to focus on photography?