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Observation about Karma
Last week while visiting my sister, we were having a conversation about karma.
Now, normally I don't give two thoughts to my ex. However, my sister was visiting him on his birthday (she married his brother so that's why) and so we were talking about that. She was saying that he's a scummy pr*ck and that karma will get him. Well, at first I thought it probably never will. He's the kind of person who doesn't care about anyone or anything, not even himself. He smokes, drinks/does drugs in excess yet will most likely live well in to his 80's and die in his sleep of natural causes. There are people who work their whole lives giving and doing for other people only to be shorted by disease, disaster or an untimely death but this azzhole will skate by.
Today I was talking to my dad about karma. I got to thinking, maybe karma doesn't have to be a series of events or earth shattering moment. Maybe, it's the feeling that things will never be right and that will always be some sort of tick in the back of your mind.
Does that make any sense? Am I strange for thinking this?
What's your POV on Karma?
Re: Observation about Karma
Man. I feel bad for your sister. Well, actually for your sister's husband. Because what a supremely awkward situation to be in.
His wife hates his brother because his sister-in-law divorced him, etc. So he's essentially in the middle.
I know this isn't about your sister, but I'm thinking you should encourage her to not, like...cause problems there.
Eek.
(Oh, and I figure if there is karma...it will do it's job to those that need it. I try to not really focus on people "getting theirs" because that means I'm wasting a lot of time and effort on people who don't deserve it.)
She doesn't cause problems. My ex and I were together before they were so her H has seen it all. He's also one of my best friends. My ex and him don't speak on the regular.
ETA: Our convo was had in private.
Good call on not paying any mind to it. Like I said, I usually don't give him two thoughts. It was more just a question of if karma could be a feeling or an event...
I think it could probably be both. But I had to associate a negative event to karma. I know lots of good people that have had bad stuff happen that totally don't deserve it.
Happens every day. It's unfortunate.
I believe in Karma. Case in point:
BF's sister is a huge Red Sox fan. I am a huge Yankees fan. So I am decorating my xmas tree tonigtht and I take a pic of my snowman ornament that just happens to be wearing a Yankees shirt and send it to BF's sister. I hang it on the tree. 2 minutes later it falls off and the nose breaks.
Bam. Karma.
Dammit.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I think that karma can be a series of events, or moreso, a quality of life that isn't up to the standards I would want for myself.
I feel like all I can do with my life is live the best way I know how, making the best choices for DS and myself, and just knowing that the way that I am conducting myself is to the highest standard possible. I have to think that, because XH is intentionally so vindictive, cruel, and uncaring, that eventually it will all catch up to him.
Maybe there won't be some cliff event that happens, but I know, for a fact, that I will have a better life in the end than him. I have spent time working on myself and thinking about my role in what went wrong with us. Even though he caused the brunt of our demise, he will never admit to, or see it that way. He has lied, cheated, and manipulated his way through life, thus far, and will continue to do so.
But maybe his karma is never knowing what it's like to truly love and care for someone else, the way that he does for himself. He lives in a small selfish world and he won't ever know pure, real, love for someone else, even for his own child.
The belief of karma is what keeps me from doing stupid things that I would love to do but know isn't the right thing.
After knowing that XH got a bad infection, was rear ended by a cop car and got c*ck blocked by my mom (she told one of his match.com dates who she knew all about XH), I strongly believe karma exists!
My understanding of Karma is that you pay for your mistakes in this life, in the next. So if you are a supreme douche in this life you will be reincarnated as a slug... or something like that.
I go back and forth with "what goes around, comes around" cause I can't makes sense of why this happened to me and of course my DD did nothing to deserve such a horrible BD.
I hope in the end we will be lifted up (in life) and he will be squashed in one way or another.
hahahahaha
signed,
Red Sox fan
Totally this. I wear a necklace daily that is called "karma" and more than anything, it just can get me to think about acting certain ways. Like, "don't laugh at such and such, because how would you feel if it happened to you" kind of thing.
And I don't care what anyone believes...I believe that XH's bad karma will eventually catch up to him.
Grr...I actually told her about it and she suggested that he was trying to commit suicide. Although PB, this should tell you something. BF is ALSO a Red Sox fan and I love that man so dearly, I actually told her that he could hang a Red Sox ornament on the tree.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I really like this. I'm trying to do the same thing.