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s/o 'next' relationships.. how can I fix this?
beccaga16:
4) The damaged person does not put up with ANY conflict. They know they can survive without a SO, so they don't put the effort into making the relationship work.
Althought I don't consider myself damaged, in the last couple days I've been made aware that I'm doing this, so I thought it was interesting that it was brought up this morning in the second marriage post below. Even when it was pointed out to me, my knee-jerk reaction was this entitlement that I'm allowed to talk to someone like shiit if they don't agree with me and I don't care how it makes them feel because, ya know, since I've already been through a marriage / divorce I don't have to accept less than perfection. 
at myself! I have NEVER been arrogant in my life!
Do any of you do this? Is this a common reaction to being divorced? How can I let this entitlement and bad attitude go?!
Re: s/o 'next' relationships.. how can I fix this?
It is such a fine line. I do not think a person should settle, yet I think finding a person that you never have ANY conflict with is almost impossible. You have to be able to compromise in a relationship.
I think all you can do is recognize the behavior, take a step back when you feel yourself getting fired up and really reflect on where the other person is coming from. Talk to a counselor, they sometimes have exercises you can try.
GL!
Recognizing this behavior is the first step. Realizing when you're doing it and working on fixing it is next. Are you in therapy? A counselor might help you deal with this. A relationship without any conflict isn't a relationship, it's a dictatorship.
I was in therapy this summer up until just a few weeks ago it become an ad hoc situation. I guess I could call her and see what she thinks. It never came up in therapy because no one had poinited it out to me until just this past Sunday.