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Just When I Thought Things Could Change
It turned around to bite me in the azz.
I've been a little quiet lately, here and in my personal life. I was holding on to a glimmer of hope that H will finally see what he's been doing to me the past 9 years. His drinking stopped, we were communicating, having dinners together, still sleeping in separate bedrooms but all in all we were "trying".
Than, yesterday happened, he invited me to the Steeler's game, free tickets, 50 yard line seats. Perfect!! Well...not so much. He, of course, proved that he couldn't handle the alcohol like he had again told me he had under control. It was so bad, that he had an argument with the consession worker because they wouldn't sell him beer during the 4th quarter; so we started walking back to my car. H, not once, but TWICE, picked up somone elses beer that they had sitting on the garbage cans. The first one, i took from him and threw it away and as I turned to walk in front of him, I walked a few steps and he had another "used" beer chugging it.
I can honestly say that was the most vile thing I've seen from a human being other than homeless people picking through garbage. Desparation at its best. So after I told him him how disgusting he was, he started screaming at me as we were exiting the stadium. I started to walk fast, he chased after me and as I was walking up the steps to cross the bridge to my car, a vendor selling cans of beer for $2, he pulled out money, to buy one. I grabbed the money, he started shooting profanities at me and told me to just leave. So I literally ran across the bridge, through the park and to my car, threw the keys in the ignition and zoomed way leaving him behind to figure out how to get home on his own.
I returned home, grabbed a bag of clothes and personal items and said goodbye to my sweet Ivory and left. This time for good.
I thought last year leaving him stranded in Buffalo, NY (another drunk debacle) was a wake up for him to change his ways and all the other stuff that has been going on recently but I was obviously wrong, again. But what is different this time, is that i finally learned my lesson. My H is a selfish son of a b!tch. Whatever glimmer of hope that I had is now gone.... I woke up this morning in my sister's house, with clairty realizing that my new life will begin today!!! FINALLY!!!!
Ivory
Re: Just When I Thought Things Could Change
I am sorry you had such a bad time at the game. I can't believe he drank someone's beer out of the garbage.
I am glad you're sticking to your decisions this time, but why did you leave your cat?
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I'm staying with my sister in an apartment that doesn't allow cats. I'm hoping that my friend and I will be moving in together in Janaury so that I can get her back.
YAY!
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
What a terrible day. I'm so glad that you were able to get out of the situation and that you can start working on healing yourself from all of this.
I'm so glad you got out of there for good and will be safe.
Drinking someones half drank beer is disgusting. Thankfully, you will never have to witness that again.