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Update: I'm leaving my narcissist DH.

Re: Update: I'm leaving my narcissist DH.

  • That's good. What changed your mind?
  • imagefussbucket:
    That's good. What changed your mind?

    We had the baby talk again and of course he acted like he was doing me a favor just to start a family with me. Plus his mother called me something like a "pushover" for putting up with all his demands. Since he refused to seek couple's counseling, I started to seek counseling on my own (like the board suggested).

    What we had was codependency. This man doesn't love me, he loves himself more.

  • I'm sorry that it's difficult but it sounds like you know you're doing the right thing.
  • imagefussbucket:
    I'm sorry that it's difficult but it sounds like you know you're doing the right thing.

    Thanks, this time I am sure. I have enough self respect not to back down or stay in this marriage any longer.

  • Stay strong because he is going to try and win you back. His ego cannot stand the blow of you possibly walking out. Good luck and get a lawyer. Keep up therapy, too.
  • Stay strong. The coming weeks and months will be difficult, but once you can get through the hard period, you will be so much happier and better off.
  • /pours one out for the coke can penis

     

    image
    Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
  • Have you told your family yet?
    I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
  • Good for you! Steel yourself for any attempts at winning yo back or damaging your reputation when you refuse him.

    I'm proud of you, good luck!

  • I am proud of you.  It takes a lot of courage to choose a better life for yourself and any future children ( if you still want them).
  • imageFMIL&MOB:
    Stay strong because he is going to try and win you back. His ego cannot stand the blow of you possibly walking out. Good luck and get a lawyer. Keep up therapy, too.

    Thank you.

  • imagedoglove:
    Stay strong. The coming weeks and months will be difficult, but once you can get through the hard period, you will be so much happier and better off.

    Thank you.

  • imageMuddled:
    Have you told your family yet?

     

    No I have not told my mother and her family, my mom is one of those woman who thinks that I should be greatful I found a man.ETC.

    I've told my sister whom I'm close with and 2 girlfriends. They've been very supportive.

  • imagesteve&heather:

    Good for you! Steel yourself for any attempts at winning yo back or damaging your reputation when you refuse him.

    I'm proud of you, good luck!

     

    thank you.

  • imagestw_77:
    I am proud of you.  It takes a lot of courage to choose a better life for yourself and any future children ( if you still want them).

     

    Thank you.

  • imagekenk500:

    imageMuddled:
    Have you told your family yet?

     

    No I have not told my mother and her family, my mom is one of those woman who thinks that I should be greatful I found a man.ETC.

    I've told my sister whom I'm close with and 2 girlfriends. They've been very supportive.

    I'm glad to hear that you have a support system. I know you were worried about how your family would react. What you are doing, no matter how good of a choice it is, is never easy, so I hope you will be able to lean on your sister and your friends.  You can tell more people when you feel ready.

    Good luck. 

    I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
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