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S/o bully ... Now and then :
What were you like in high school? How does it compare to you now? What do you wish you could tell your high school self?
Re: S/o bully ... Now and then :
I think I'm somewhat the same as I was in high school (that sounds bad) but I'm not sure how to explain it. Obviously, I've matured and such and experienced a lot over the years but personality and how/who I make friends with is the same. I was burned in middle/high school by girls which is what makes me still so untrusting of them today.
I would tell myself to date around more and not stay in long relationships. I was naive to some of the boys that liked me till after I had moved away.
I don't think it sounds bad, I think I'm more or less the same person as I was then also. I was just sort of middle of the road, had a nice group of friends, and that feels the same now. I'm not some sort of social-climber-Junior-League-keeping-up-with-the-Joneses type (I think of this as the Homecoming queen type), but I have a handful of really wonderful close friends (women), and I felt about the same then - had a handful of lovely girls that were my friends. I dated some nice boys & now I'm married to a nice boy from a small town.
I am mostly a live & let live type but I do not tolerate certain kinds of thinking or behavior (racist, sexist, ignorant stuff), and that has not changed. I still speak my mind but have (hopefully) developed a little more diplomacy.
I still like to have a good time & I talk too much, that hasn't changed.
I"m pretty much the same person....
In HS I didnt really have any BFF's, I just got along with everyone. At times you would see me sitting with the not-so-in crowd and other times I was in with the popular kids. I really had no enemys. I was really quiet and shy and just went with the flow.
I'm pretty much like that now. I"m pretty quiet and shy until I get to know someone. I still don't really have any BFF's. I pretty much get along with anyone and everyone.
Looking back I would tell myself to "Grow a set of balls" like my freshman year of high school. Instead of getting along with eveyrone, I tried hard to fit into a group I really didnt fit into, but yet I didnt know anyone and it was my roomie and her friends. It was not a joyas time but at that time I just wanted to be "cool". Looking back I wished I could go back and be who I really am and probably would have graduated college sooner, got better grades etc.
In high school I was always running to some other activity, work, or some athletic program. Honestly, I had a few friends who were in activities with me (sports, music or a planning group), but I didn't spend a lot of time trying to socialize with people.
While I was in school I was working 20-30 hours/week, spent an obscene amount of time at the stables (I was a competitive horseback rider), played varsity soccer, coached youth basketball and worked as a riding instructor, was on every fricken' committee, was in 3 select music groups through school and statewide programs, and was in pretty competitive classes. If I could go back, I would tell myself to slow down and socialize a bit and enjoy time before I have too many financial responsibilities.
I'm similar now-I'm regularly "overbooked" with life, but I have calmed down a bit. I always get the "when are you going to slow down?" comment from friends and family since it's been non-stop with huge life changes since I graduated from college.
This is me to a T.
I was pretty much of an introvert in high school, always worried about what people thought of me. I despise cliques, and my high school was full of them. I was friends with random people from the cliques, I just wasn't part of one. I spent a lot of my time with my friends that I had at the public school, and I worked a lot and I think that kind of prevented me from really being able to make friends and socialize when I worked 4-5 nights a week. I had a boyfriend for junior and senior year, who I really didn't even like, looking back on it now. LOL! He was a part of the "cool crowd", so I think that's why I dated him since I wanted so bad to be a part of something. The whole time I dated him, I was "in love" with my best guy friend. I ended up cheating on my boyfriend with him senior year. It was a HUGE disaster and I made some pretty terrible decisions.
If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't give a f*ck about what people thought of me. I probably would make it a point to speak to everyone, and not be so worried about who I was "allowed" to talk to. I also wouldn't have been in a serious relationship for the 2 years that I was, and probably would have just dated for the fun of it, not for the purpose of trying to find a fairytale.
I think I'm different now in the sense that I'm a lot more open and outgoing than I used to be. Even though I hate small talk, I'm more able to start conversations now and not worry every second if people like me or not. I think being around my husband's massive family has helped a lot with making me less shy and more open and more likely to not give a shiiit what people think of me. They all hate each other and talk so much shiiit that I've grown to realize that no matter what I do or how nice I am, someone will most likely find some kind of problem with me, so I may as well just be who I am.
I was quiet in HS, and was scared to death of talking to boys or even raise my hand in class half the time. I did always have a good group of friends, and still do. I am completely different now, but can't really pinpoint exactly where or when I came out of my shell. I guess I cared WAY too much about what people might think of me.
I got horrible grades in HS, and barely graduated so I probably would tell my HS self to buckle down and try a little bit harder!
I liked to drink in HS, and I like to drink now...that has not changed, LOL. I'd like to think I make better decisions regarding alcohol now though...
Um....wow. I'm not sure I should admit any of this. I am WAY different than I was in HS. I was prom princess....then prom queen the next year, homecoming court for 3 years and then homecoming queen. I was a varsity starter on the volleyball, basketball and softball teams all 4 years of high school. I thought that my sh!t didn't stink. I was the b!tch that people followed....if I didn't like someone, then there was a huge group of people that didn't like them. I was a self centered, spoiled, b!tch.
:::EDIT::: I did NOT bully anyone though....I also didn't push people to not like a person. It was like a weird following....if I didn't like someone then they just didn't like them too.
I am very VERY different now. If you are my friend/family I will be there for you no matter what. I pretty much put myself last must of the time. I am loyal to a fault.
I am pretty much the same person, although now I do not care nearly as much of what people think of me. I used to care- A LOT! I wasn't really in one clique... friends with people from several different ones, although almost all the boys I hung out with were on the football and baseball team.
I would tell myself you don't need a boyfriend to be happy and I would def have advised myself to break up with a few guys I did date.
I don't think I was nearly as bitchy as I am now...LOL! But I LOVED high school. I was pretty quiet and geeky my freshman year as I wasn't used to being in a big public school and just all those people, so I just sort of 'sat back and watched' that first year, stuck with my small group of kids that all came from my private grade school and mostly hung with them all year and other kids from private school that sort of were in the same boat as me. Was in Science and Spanish club.
After that though I was pretty crazy. I was a cheerleader, dated football players, was on student council, ran for homecoming, class officers, went on all the DECA trips and stuff like that. Hung out with a lot of people in the grade above and below me and just all different types of people. I don't think I was popular or part of anyone clique, but I got along with everyone...freaks, geeks, and the cool kids. I liked them all. 
We had some pretty good times, drank more then I probably should of and did a lot os stupid stuff I would ever want my kids to do. I was an average student, but took almost all honor and AP classes but never 'applied' myself. 
If I could go back I would most definately try harder in class, study more, would have applied for more scholorships and grants and all that jazz. I would probably have told myself to try doing something other then cheerleading, or in addition to it like soccer or something like that, but I am not athletic at all. 
I would love to ask people I went to HS to answer this question for me..would love to hear what they thought of me back then.