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Can I have an opinion?
Okay, so I've been divorced for 8 months and starting around September, XH has been calling me once or twice a week to "talk". He called the first time because it was the birthday of his brother who passed away and he was really upset. I get that. But every week he's been calling me on and off. I was answering at first, but now I haven't been at all this month. So, this weekend I had called him to ask him a question regarding our dogs that he has custody of, and my parents had him over to fix their computer so I thanked him for that, and we just started making small talk. So he says to me, "What happened to D?" and I said "What do you mean? He lives with me?" so he continues on to say that he thinks it's funny that I call him to talk about things when my boyfriend is sitting at home. Why don't I talk to my boyfriend instead of my XH? Really? Dude, you're the one who called me for months, I didn't call you...ugh I don't get it. So I basically said to him, "Okay, I'll go talk to BF then. See ya." and hung up.
Any opinions on why he's doing this? It's just mad stupid, I think.
Re: Can I have an opinion?
You
drama and are a glutton for punishment from this board
/gavel
Make it three!
OP--Your situation makes my head hurt.
You have issues, your BF has issues, your XH has issues. Two months after splitting with XH you are moved in with BF and yet you wonder why things are drama filled?
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Please imagine this says whatever you want it to.
You have broken me.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
::insert drama llama photo here::
I can't from my phone
This. It is hard as ex left the cat with me, but he got over it and so will you. If you want to move forward, you need to cut all contact forever. If you can't, you should talk to a therapist about it b/c it is not healthy.
I actually didn't know my parents had called him. I asked that they didn't and they still do. I don't know why, but I thanked him for doing something for them when he obviously didn't have to.
My dogs were my children. I miss them every day, but I do not see them because I do not want to see him. I also haven't spoken to him in over a month, because I was not answering his phone calls. I dunno.
I guess I'm fuckedupbigtime.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I don't know much about your situation, but it truly sounds like neither one of you are over the other. You need to be truly honest with yourself and decide once and for all if you are over your XH. You say you haven't talked to him in over a month and have been avoiding his calls, but you need to be proactive in order to move on. Tell him to stop calling you and tell your parents to stop calling him... at least for the time being so that the two of you can heal properly and move on to a healthier way of life. And if you really find that you still have feelings for your XH, you need to dump the BF and be alone for a little while.
Amazing opinion. I love it.
But seriously, it sounds like you love the attention EH is giving you. Give him the dogs, get new ones and move on.
My opinion? You're gross and dragging him along to make yourself feel good.
Ick.
You do not have children together, correct? There should be zero communication with him period.
You really are in need of some serious therapy, just thought I'd throw that in there one more time. Not sure why I bother, I guess I'm just a glutton for punishment like that. In some strange and twisted way, I really wish we could make you see how much you have to learn.
ETA: Also, am I the only one who finds the title of this thread hilarious? OP, admit it, you don't really want an opinion from anyone on this board and never have, unless it is something that you want to hear. Since that usually isn't what you end up getting I am always surprised that you continue posting.
::cue Air running off in a huff after reading these responses::
Achase I thought the same thing about the title!!!! I thought she GBCN-SO Board??? Or did I come to the wrong conclusion from her last post?
I like the Maury idea!
Not only this, but you suck at life. The end.