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Just need to vent
This is my first post on this board! I just need to vent.
I left my old job in September for what was supposed to be a better job. This "better" job takes 1 1/2 hours to commute to everyday, sometimes 2 hours if the traffic is really bad. It should only take an hour. Since Sept. my old job has gone under, and there are no other options in my small home town, which I'm ready to get out of anyways. I do not like the new town I work in. My husband works an hour from our home in the opposite direction of where I work. So we sort of live in the middle. We wake up at 445 everyday, and get home around 530 (he works 10 hour days). By the time I come home, cook, eat, clean up dinner, pack next day's lunches, I'm just totally exhausted and ready for bed. The weekends we spend catching up on laundry, groceries, etc. I like to work out an hour a day, cook better, healthier meals, visit/hang out with friends, work on mini projects etc. All things I've lost interest in doing since my new job.
I hate my new job. I do absolutely NOTHING all day long. I have no projects. No tasks. And from what it looks like, the people that have been here since April don't do much of anything either. It was okay for the first month, but now I am just sick of it. I wake up, drive far to do nothing everyday, drive far to get home, and for some reason I just lost ALL my motivation.
Today I remembered when 2 years ago I was in school. I was constantly busy with school work, working 2 jobs, working out, and loving it. I used to bartend and miss the social interaction. I don't miss working on weekends. But I miss having simple jobs, working 8 hours a day and doing other activities than driving!
My husband and I want to move somewhere warm because we have motorcycles and want to enjoy them all year round as well as running/going to walks outside, and just simply want to work 40 hours a week at simple jobs that we live within a 20 min drive to.
I just feel like we are stuck now. I am thankful that we both have good jobs and make good money, but our quality of life sucks. I have been trying to apply for jobs in other areas that I'm over qualified for, and I don't hear anything back. I'm sick of driving so far, but its better than no job, but I can't do this forever. We have no desire to move closer to either of our jobs, but can't get a job anywere else, we are just stuck! And I want to get a job in IT using my degree, but at the same time, I'm not sure I enjoy working (or fake working, I should say) at a desk all day.
I think that's the end of my rant. Thanks for listening!
Re: Just need to vent
I'm sorry you're going through this. If you're looking for advice, keep reading:
-The "dream job" isn't going to appear out of nowhere. If you do nothing all day and you're ready to leave, why are you not spending all that free time looking for your next job?
-Have you or your husband approached your companies about teleworking? It sounds like even if they made you pay some start-up costs like purchasing a laptop or paying for your own internet, the improvement to your QoL would be worth it.
-As I read your post, all I see is opportunity. Nothing to do? What about the job processes make it such that you have so much down time? IMO it's a great opportunity to streamline and make recommendations to the boss.
-At some point, you'll need to get off the Negativity Horse; IMO it's part of what's making the rest of your life so negative. Focus on what's good about the job instead of the negative. Better paying, not bankrupt, etc. It's not about the bare minimum of "thankful that I have a job" but more of "thank goodness I'm around like-minded peers and I'm not working at a college bar with a bunch of drop-outs." Hell, I'd be thankful for all the free time you have!