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My Blog
So apparently XH found it. I just got a text saying "nice blog". I didn't respond but I'm not sure what to do. It is private for now, but I noticed that you can only have 100 people follow you if it is private. Honestly, I freaked at first, but I don't really see why I should care if he found it. I think it does more help to people than harm and I do not use his name or identifying things about him. Any advice on this? Maybe I should delete the whole thing?
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Re: My Blog
Honestly, I'd delete and start fresh under a new name. Or move your posts to an unrecognizable name and delete your original blog.
ETA - What a whack job. Why would he even TELL you that he found this information? And it's creepy that he discovered it, no?
Could he have found it through here? Maybe take the link out of your sig?
This and if you want to keep it hard to find, don't have pics. I hope you keep it going somehow.
The way I see it, nothing you're putting about SD in the blog is anything he can legally hold against you. Sure, I'm willing to bet your thoughts and opinions of him are making him see red, but it's just that...your opinion. Anything you're stating about events that happened is factual, and while it makes him look bad, that's his own fault for being a DB.
Keep posting. And I wouldn't even acknowledge in the blog that SD knows about it. That would just give him the reaction he's looking for.
Unsolicited advice from a lurker: check your separation agreement and divorce decree. In mine, it stipulates that neither my ex nor I can speak disparagingly about the other.
I'd hate for SD to have anything to use against you in court.
Agreed. This is usually reserved for people who have a lot to lose professionally though and insist that it's a stipulation in the agreement/decree--it's not standard language to my knowledge. I'm pretty sure DB is in the clear on that one!
What a douche! Why was he looking for it? He had to have looked for it or else he wouldn't have found it.
I would maybe just move all your posts to a new blog. I love reading your blog and I think many women get a lot out of it. I'd hate for you to have to give that up because of your douchey ex.
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I'm a lurker but I've been reading your blog from the beginning. I agree with the others, I hope you find a way to keep it going, and I also hope you can find a way to keep it public. You have an amazing story and a strength that is really inspirational and helpful to others in the same position.
Good luck!
Jen
Very creepy he discovered it, and that he told me about it. I couldn't sleep last night after I got the text, even though I didn't respond to him.
A slightly more normal, empathetic human being would look at it and say "OMG, I have put this woman through so much, I really need to look at myself here." But he will read it as "she's spreading lies and making me look bad". I know him well enough to discern that's how he will take it.
One thing that makes me laugh a little is thinking that he probably doesn't understand at least 50% of what I write since he's not exactly a rocket scientist in the vocabulary department.
your rite there. thats to funny. <----- That's what texts I get from ex look like.
It's too bad that he will just see it as him being the victim rather an account of what you and P have gone through.
Do you know how he found it? I think it's smart that you made it private. The less information he has about you, the better.
I understand why you freaked. You're dealing with a loose canon who's not exactly rational in any capacity, so who knows what he'll do as retaliation for spreading "lies" about him, even if they are hard and proven facts.
Not a clue, really. A lot of people know about it so I guess it could've been anyone who told him.
I created a new address so if you want it pm me!