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You guys, 2 kids is REALLY easy.

When one of them is at daycare!  

 

OK, really though, HOLEESHIT.  Jack needs some stimulation and burning of energy.  Problem is, whenever I am able to give him undivided attention, I also have to start dinner, change laundry, go pee, chug some water, then he'll wake the baby, then he'll need fed, changed, barf, so then I'll have to do laundry again and now dinner's burning on the stove, etc, etc, etc.  

This is turning Jack into a terror.  It's made worse because I'm nursing, so I'm also stuck on the couch half the day and he knows it and many times, uses that time to his advantage to run like a crazed banshee through my house.  I hate disciplining for his behavior because, really, it's not his fault.  (I am still disciplining, though, but not sure it's even helping.)

This is mostly a vent, combined with a "Is there anything I can do with this maniac?"  I sent him to daycare two days last week and it was a GODsend. 

 

Signed,

The girl who brushed her teeth for the first time today at 9:00 p.m.

Re: You guys, 2 kids is REALLY easy.

  • It gets better, I promise!

    I completely understand where you are coming from! I really think that is part of the reason that nursing didn't work out for me. My DD went nuts when I was trying to nurse, which at that time seemed like it was 20 hours out of the day. It never failed that she had to potty as soon as I sat down to nurse. 

    Hopefully, it will get easier soon!

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  • I will be sending E to daycare for the entire 6 weeks I am on maternity leave.  One of the big reasons is because of the time I know I'm going to be confined to the couch nursing.  I wish I could send my nephew to daycare everyday too because I know he is going to drive me up the freaking wall!
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    I will be sending E to daycare for the entire 6 weeks I am on maternity leave.  One of the big reasons is because of the time I know I'm going to be confined to the couch nursing.  I wish I could send my nephew to daycare everyday too because I know he is going to drive me up the freaking wall!

    Oh Bryn, you're gonna love that!  The days that he went last week were HEAVEN (and I feel a little guilty admitting that).  I had no idea how easy (just) babies are!  Haha!  I think we're going to get on a more regular schedule with daycare, though.  I have some (ok, two weddings) editing that needs done this month, plus it's good for him to get out and have some socialization.  And, it's amazing how better both of our spirits are when we see each other in the late afternoons after not seeing each other for much of the day. 

    Sorry about your nephew; I can imagine the stress from him is just really hard right now with everything else going on.  

  • I feel ya sista! As bad as it sounds, Owen watched a lot of PBS since he was always home with me. I got pretty good at doing things while nursing though too. Even wiped his asss while nursing! I still don't know how some moms make dinner with kids constantly needing attention. It stresses me out some nights.
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  • Discipline is good. He's probably testing boundaries and trying to understand his new normal. Be as consistent as you can. Things will eventually settle down. We kept Owen on his normal schedule (daycare, preschool, daycare) every day after Amelie was born to try to help the transition. It seemed to do fairly well for Owen, but he's not typical. I think daycare right now is probably very good for all of you. Good for you! :-)
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    The girl who brushed her teeth for the first time today at 9:00 p.m.

    Ok, I have one kid and this is a normal occurrence at my house with at 10.5 month old. Hang in there. 

    My only thought and I didn't read any other suggestions is can you create somewhat of a schedule for jack so that at XYZ time this is going to happen, then this, then this, So he knows what to expect. Even if its play with legos at 10am, movie at 10:30, snack at 11. Doesn't have to be set in stone but would give you things to entertain him with when you are busy nursing etc. OR make a list of activities and let him chose the next activity from the list. 

  • I agree that daycare is probably good for everyone. Hang in there. I can't imagine how hard it has to be to juggle it all.  You're doing a great job.  It'll get easier someday soon.  Everyone will fall into a happy routine. Smile
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  • If I can do It, you can do it! 
  • It does get better when the baby gets older.  It is just when they are so young it is hard because you can't get a real good schedule.   I don't want to admit this but my 2 year old knew how to turn on the tv and that is what she would do when I would sit there and nurse.   :(  I ended up putting her in daycare a couple mornings a week and it worked well for us. 
  • K went to daycare when I was home with B, but nights were a ruckus since J was working nights.  It was holy hell until about 2.5 months.  It gets easier, it's sucktastic and seems never ending right now, but I promise it will come together soon.  Keep him going to daycare a couple times a week, that will definitely help.  Hugs and hang in there!
  • We sent E to daycare while I was at home with Ian.   

    Nights were also tough for me, but that was due to J being away at the hospital with his dad or helping his mom.  :(

    It does get lots better.  He'll stop eating as much and be more interactive with his brother (I love how Ian's face lights up when he sees his big sis, priceless).

  • This is how I feel right now.  I also think this is why Jude and I are not getting bfing down like I know we could.  I have to chase Mara, help Berkeley with something, or get something out for Peyton when Jude needs to eat. 

     

    I am sure things will balance out for you guys soon!! 

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  • It does definitely get easier- I sounded just like you do now!   With us we did PT dayacre while I was home- he went 3 days per week and was home 2 days- I didn't want to send him everydya and give him the impression that the baby was more important and that mommy was only keepign her at home and the 3 days per weekw as great- gave me one on one time with baby and also allowed me to do some fun things with Blake during the week which I normally can't do
  • Been there, sister.  Like everyone said, it gets easier, eventually.  I had the luxury of sending B to daycare 5 days a week while I was home on maternity leave.  I was the only person in the free world that dreaded the weekend.  When Monday rolled around and everyone was out of the house except for me and my nugget, I was in heaven.   New babies are HARD.  Toddlers with a jealous streak are HARD.   You have both :)   And I know you?re still feeling bad for Jack and thinking you ruined his world (well, a guess anyway).  Stop, he?ll be fine.  This is the main reason your struggling with it all and not able to let some of slide (like letting pbs be your friend). 
    All I can say is hang in there and try to enjoy your little nugget in your moments of peace.   

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  • I don't have 2 kids, but I vote that you send Jack to daycare on days that J has to work...or have J drop him off there for 1/2 a day on his late days. You need some "me" time...and by that I mean time to be able to do the spit-up laundry, and nap.
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