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So life. . .
I just need to get this off of my chest and get feed back from someone other than my husband.
As I mentioned below I am not happy in my job. I have put a lot of thought into what I want to do, and I don't think that I am going to be happy anywhere in the social services field. I swear up and down that this is what I wanted to do since I was in 5th grade. I am not sure what happened, whether it was the agency or me changing, but I have NO passion for what I do. I am planning on finishing the second degree because I am so close. But I am thinking of going to culinary school for pastries and confections. I love to bake. Has anybody else experienced anything like this?
Re: So life. . .
I personally haven't but I have a friend right now that is going through a whole change of heart about being a lawyer. She is trying to figure out what she wants to do and where she wants to be. She's going to come and "intern" with me one day just to see what I do on a daily basis.
Ultimately though I would finish your degree, perhaps change agencies. Having work and school on your plate is a lot and maybe you will feel differently about everything once you are only worried about your job. Being in school and working full time is more stress than I have ever felt. It was such a relief to only have work once I finished college.
and also lots of hugs. I hate that you feel this way.
I 100% know how it feels to dislike your job, but I'm not in the exact same situation as you since I didn't put in all the work of obtaining a degree in a certain field and then realize I was unhappy afterward. It's a big decision to make because it requires time spent learning a new skill, but honestly, if you're not feeling any joy when you go into work then it is probably time for a change. The time you spend at your workplace is a big portion of your day and it's too much of a time span in my opinion to be unhappy. For what it's worth I think your choice to go with pastry arts is great
I sort of went through something similar last fall. I was struggling a lot with some of my engineering classes that semester and at times I begin to question if I would even make it as an engineer.
After some careful thought I realized I was just going through a difficult phase and told myself I couldn't give up. I ended getting good grades for that semester.
I guess what I mean is, if you can't seem to find any kind of motivation then do what you think is best for you and makes you happy.
I hope that makes sense and helps you.
Best of luck!
A lot can change between 5th grade and your 20s!
You're still pretty young, right? V realized too late that he had lost interest in the field he was pursuing. He's lucky that he ended up finding a great job that's a good bridge between where he was and where he wants to be, but I can tell you that it's pretty awful to live with regret (it was stressful for both of us, honestly one of the more challenging things that we've tackled in our marriage). If you have time and opportunity now to make the switch, go for it!
I'm all for pursuing your dreams, just be smart about it. Think about baking as a hobby vs. a career - will it still be fun for you if your salary depends on it? Do some research into what the career path and job prospects are in the field. Make sure all of your financial ducks are in a row and that you can support yourselves while you're in school, and if you need to take out student loans, make sure you're comfortable with the payoff.
GL!
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You're not the first one to hit this wall. I'm sorry, I know it sucks. All I ever wanted to be was a journalist and be on the nightly news. I got my degree, worked my way up at stations but at the end of the day I was dead tired, the pay sucked, the hours sucked and honestly after seeing and reporting on so many crimes right in front of your face, it makes you kind of give up on society.
After I left journalism I took an office job in an industry I didn't know and fell in love with it and worked my way up. I wanted to go back to school for a culinary degree as well but as Ringy and others have said, I realized 1) do I really want to do my *hobby* as my job/career and 2) schedules and hours of an up and coming chef/baker suck.
All that said, I hope you think this through and for the mean time if you really hate your job, I suggest you put feelers out to see what you can find and see if it's a good fit before you jump right back into school.
If everyone today had the same job/career that they wanted at 5, 10 or 15, we'd be in a world of trouble!
I 2nd guess myself every day if this is what I want to do. Not this job in particular, but the field that I worked so hard for. I'm finally going to get a taste of it (FX) and I'm hoping it lives up to the hype I've made in my head about it. My best friend has been a lawyer for a few years now, and she hates it. She really wants to go back to school for nutrition and physical training type stuff. It's a total 180 but she can't bring herself to do it. I'm not sure she'd be happy there either, though.
I think there's plenty of people in your situation. It's what you do about it that matters. If you can afford to go after what you really think your passion might be, then I say go for it. Life is short.
I have a friend who got a masters in Mechanical Engineering and then decided that he hated engineering. He then went to culinary school. After working at some restaurants during school, he's decided that he doesn't want to pursue that career either.
By all means do what makes you happy, but if you decide to change careers like that, make sure that you're confident that you will want to stick with the new career before you dive into it.
I guess I wanted to say the same thing as everyone else - do your research first and look before you leap. I wanted to be a chef when I was in my late teens, but once I found out what it was really all about, I knew I didn't have the right temperament for it. It's high stress, deadline driven and you need to be a type-A perfectionist personality. I never thought I'd be a teacher (actually, I swore I wouldn't), but it suits me really well.
Looking into working with a different agency sounds like a really good idea or involving yourself in your field in a different way.
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