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worst. evening. ever.
so tonight, after i get home from visiting my friend in the hospital after her stillbirth...DH says to not check facebook, because i'll be mad.
mad doesn't begin to describe how i felt seeing my sister's status as "Ive made a huge mistake!!.... Ive hurt the one I love... And now theres nothing I can do to take it back.."
so i called her, and we ended up in a 15 minute heated discussion where i basically told her everything i've ever thought about assh0le ex-boyfriend, and how she deserves better and it's okay to be alone.
she tells me i have a "picture perfect" view of her and i don't know that she's really the one that starts the fights and is mean, and he's the nice one. YEAH, THAT'S WHAT ALL EMOTIONAL ABUSERS THINK.
ugh...worst few hours i've had in a loooooooong time.
i need booze.
Re: worst. evening. ever.
I am so sorry. What a brutal night. Good for you for telling your sister what you really thought of her BF. I really hope that it sinks into her head. Breaking up is hard no matter whether it was right or not. Believe me, I had my fair share of losers (ask my parents.. they never let me forget). Later down the road, she will look back and realize what a mistake it was, and hopefully she will use that knowledge when she picks the next guy.
And here is a strong drink for you....
Hales - ask her if it was you and your DH treated you so poorly, what would she say. Would she tell you that YOU are the problem in the relationship? That YOUR attitude needed to change? No, she would not.
Tell her that you care, but watching her implode in a crappy relationship is not something you want her to go through. No one should ever stay with a lsoer just to not be alone.
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I'm so sorry Hay-bales. What an emotional roller-coaster. I'm really proud of you, though, for being straight with your sister. I hope she takes it to heart. At least she knows that you are there for her and that she's not really alone.
I agree, though, it sounds exactly like something that someone who has been emotionally abused would say.
They make you think that you're the one who starts fights and is the problem when really you're "starting" the fight because THEY acted like an @sshole. He must have done a real number on her head. You're doing the right thing trying to help her see through the BS though. 
Sorry to hear about your sister!
Hopefully, she will come to her senses. She's lucky to have you there for her!
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ladies, what would i do without you??
in the light of morning, and out of my highly charged emotional state last night...i STILL think i did the right thing. and that makes me feel a lot better.
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I think you did the right thing.
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Hales you did the right thing!!!
My BIL did the same thing for years and it was such a relief when DH and I told him how awful his ex GF was to him that she was a horrible human being and treated him terribly.
I hope your sister comes around.