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FWB?
Have you ever had a FWB? If so, how did it work out? What did you love about it? Any regrets?
Re: FWB?
Yup. Great. The sex. No.
Haha. Seriously, the tricky things with FWB is making sure that you both REMAIN friends. I think what happens a lot of the time is that people wind up having feelings for the other person, which usually aren't reciprocated and then all hell breaks loose.
I only had 1 long term FWB. It was a guy I actually dated for 2 weeks but he ended up being WAY not my type. However the sex was fantastic so we continued to hang out. It worked because we both were totally realistic about the situation and both knew it was just a FWB situation.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Ditto dmarie! Although, we never actually dated. Its very important to make sure both people are on the same page though otherwise, it could easily blow up in your face...
Funny that this is brought up. After I broke up with the chef a couple of months ago, I was a little bummed that my FWB had gotten a girlfriend so I didn't have a go to guy. We actually were talking the other day and apparently there is trouble in the relationship and they are on the verge of breaking up, it just hasn't happened yet. At this rate, we may end up with a 2nd NYE having a great time lol.
I did right after my divorce and I got attached. I wasn't used to being held (FWB was a cuddler) and I developed feelings even though he wasn't my type, I couldn't hold a conversation with him, and the sex was just okay. I broke things off when I got jealous that he went out on a date with another girl. We are still friends and have hung out since with no hanky panky.
I currently am trying to set up another FWB because I'm emotionally ready for one but don't want or have time for a relationship. So far we have been talking from a dating site but haven't met yet. It's important to make sure things are clear. I'm very rule oriented--no pet names, no good morning calls/texts, etc. I find that I'm often a pushover so I need to set rules from the get go. If you can do it, it's a good time
Yea..... and I ended up marrying him....
I had a few others before him, and one after we had started the FWB, but once we got into a relationship, it was just him. It's to say if I have regret because if I didn't get with him, I would not be going through this heartache, but I also wouldn't have my amazing little boy
Ladies,
Thanks for sharing your stories. I'm considering getting into a FWB situation, but just want to make sure I know what I'm getting myself into, since I've never done it before, nor have I wanted to until now. I definitely want to now! But just want to be careful not to get confused or hurt...
Agreed. I thought the guy I was FWB with was kind of a douche lol. I did not want to date him. This made it really easy to not get confused or hurt.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Good point. I definitely do NOT want to date this guy! We dated briefly and it did not work out because he is completely incapable of communicating or resolving conflict. He only wants to text, refuses to talk on the phone and if things get even a little difficult in a conversation he storms out. He's funny and sexy, but that's the extent of my interest.
One concern is that I am dating and if I meet someone that I'm actually interested in and the sex pales in comparison, then that could be confusing... hmmm.... in some ways maybe it would be better just to fantasize about him and not scratch the itch.
Eh, I wouldn't worry about it. The sex with my FWB was freakin' ridiculous. Then I met a guy that I really liked and the sex was good but no where near what it was with FWB. I still dumped FWB like a hot potato because it was so much more important to me to have that emotional connection than it was to just have great sex.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
No. I am not built for it.
I really wish I was sometimes! I get attached though. I know myself and I would not handle it well.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Update: I saw him last night and it was really fun. I am a little worried that he's going to use this as an opportunity to try to win me back. Just a feeling I had last night and because of some things he said. I'm going to proceed with caution.
It's interesting to observe how I feel a little guilty, like I shouldn't be allowed to just enjoy myself. I've been completely upfront with him and he agrees. I guess it's just new territory for me. I bet men never feel guilty about having sex just because it feels good!