imdonel8er- questions for you

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• imdonel8r

  December 2011

  Muddled:

  What is your plan to get out of the house? 

  Right now I am doing paperwork and finding paperwork. I just wrote up a list of things in the house that are mine and I am going to take pictures in a bit. ( So he can't try to get rid of them) Then go see a lawyer(or a few) Monday . See what my options are . Figure out a plan for SS and then leave.
  

  Do you have somewhere to go/someone to stay with?

  Finding a place to go is pretty easy for me . My parents /sister live in the same house and there door is already open . They told me that the other night when I was talking to them about the doctor thing. 
  

   

  Do you have any money at all? Is there any way that you can squirrel a stash away? (I know you said that you were able to get money for a retainer, so I don't know if you have been able to collect anything else.)

  Right now I do not but my sister already said she will give me the money to fill and all.
  

  When is your appt with the lawyer?

  Hoping to schedule some today for Monday. 
  

  How are you going to keep yourself safe if your H finds out that you met with a lawyer?

  This is the hard one. I mean its not super hard to keep me safe . I can leave  if he gets upset , call someone to come pick me up. Its more about keeping SS safe. So H doesn't flip on him since he is only a toddler. 
  

  Does your marriage counselor know that your husband is physically and mentally abusive?

   Kind of . I am going to bring it up more in the next appt .
  

   
  

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• Muddled

  December 2011

  Your stepson is the reason you won't leave right away, isn't he? Has H ever hit the child before? Definitely make sure to talk to your lawyer about your options regarding your SS. I know that you are his primary caregiver and have been for most of his life.

  I wish you were in a simpler situation. Please do what you can to keep yourself safe.
  

  I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns

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• imdonel8r

  December 2011

  Muddled:

  Your stepson is the reason you won't leave right away, isn't he?

  Yeah . But I am hoping that I can set up something with H so still see SS . 
  

  
  

  Has H ever hit the child before?

  No yet. But H has a short fuse so I don't know what would happen if he was alone with him. 
  

   

  Definitely make sure to talk to your lawyer about your options regarding your SS. I know that you are his primary caregiver and have been for most of his life.

  I wish you were in a simpler situation. Please do what you can to keep yourself safe.

  Thanks. Its hard because theirs not alot of step parent laws out there just yet.
  

   

   

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