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What say ye? post-divorce body art
I know a lot of people get tattoos after their divorce. I'm not a tattoo girl but I have been thinking about getting my belly button repierced. Part of me thinks it will be fun and new and I can always take it out if I decide I don't like it (I still have a hole from when I got it done when I was 18--it would be pierced through the same hole).
On the other hand, I'm a 27 year old lawyer who is a fairly conservative dresser and took my belly ring out the first time after a year because it just "wasn't me". I feel like I'm too old to have my belly button pierced but want to do it anyway.
I was going to go today to get it done but I'm still undecided. I think if I don't do it today, I won't do it at all. What say ye, SO? Should I go for it or am I too old?
Re: What say ye? post-divorce body art
DO IT! I got mine re-pierced after my divorce and I was 33 at the time.
One caution though...I found that getting it repierced was much more painful than the first time I got it done (I was 21) due to the scar tissue. I love it though and never want to take it out again unless I have to due to pregnancy.
What kind of ring do I get? I was thinking one of those barbells with the gems-one on top and one on bottom. I will get a bad reaction to the dangling ones because they solder them with nickel, which I am allergic to...and I think the dangling ones are kind of stripper-esque.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Yeah, I have a curved barbell with the gem on top and on the bottom. The only time I would ever wear a dangling one would be if I was at the beach.
Do you remember how long it took to heal? All I remember from years ago was having a hoop when I got it pierced and some pus. In retrospect it was kind of nasty.
I think I'm going to go for it. I have a couple of hours to kill before meeting up with a friend for sushi and sake after work and the piercing guy is in today! I'm wearing a dress and tights today--guess I'll be showing off my panties at the piercing parlor!
Ouch! I'm way more worried about the tights rubbing than the fact that you will have your panties out lol
The tights can always be removed so I'm not too worried about that! I would be doing it after work and have a dress and boots on that would look ok for dinner/drinks without tights.
I don't think you are too old and you may have a side to you that is not as conservative dying to get out. With that said, I wouldn't do anything if you're not sure of it. I made so many decisions out of hesitated feelings and have regretted doing that.
Honestly, it took about a year to heal. I would see if your plans for tonight with your friend are flexible because you might be in pain and want to lie down instead of sit.
I think you should do it.
I got a tattoo when the X and I separated. The tat had nothing to do with him (Nhad been wanting it since I was 18) but he hated tattoos so I wasn't going to get it while we were together. I was 26 when I got it.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Eh, I've got a pretty high tolerance for pain, some Naproxen in my purse and was planning on drinking sake (if I don't take pain meds). I'll probably be whining tomorrow morning and telling you you're right though!
I don't remember the navel being especially painful -- provided you don't catch it on your pants. But if you're in a dress, you're home free! I doubt you'll need to reschedule dinner/drinks.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I think because it's a re-pierce it might be more painful through scar tissue.
I am 26 and still have my belly button pierced, I put it back in after each pregnancy, have had it done since I was 18.
I just got a tattoo in Sept that reads "Fight Every Fight Like You Can Win" and I got it on my forearm (all the rest are in well hidden spots) as my reminder to myself that I need to stand up for what I believe in and what is going to make me happy. Once I get divorced I plan on getting a big ole tattoo to celebrate (MH and I have matching tattoos and I will be covering it up with something I like a lot more).
A belly button ring is easily hidden, most people are surprised when they find out I have one, and you can always take it out if you change your mind, I say go for it.
A good piercer won't pierce through the scar tissue -- he or she should be able to avoid it.
Good luck!
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
I originally had my navel pierced when I was 19... I took it out when I was pregnant (26). Last summer I thought I'd get it repierced, but it had never closed up. It was a little sore after putting a ring in it again, but better after a couple of days.