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Therapy

* side-note*  I have no idea where my last post went . I think I may of deleted it by accident . But thanks for the reply's.

 

 So we have therapy ( its not our first time )  tomorrow and I am just trying to gather my thoughts going in . Does anyone have any advice and anything   you think I should bring up ion therapy? Thanks in Advance .

Re: Therapy

  • Perhaps you should seek some individual counseling for yourself.
  • I wouldn't bother going to therapy with your abusive, POS stbxh!
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  • Well its my therapist he is just going for the visit .  I have seen this therapist about 5-6 times and S2BXH has seen him once.  I have a lawyer visit on Tuesday.
  • imageimoan:
    I wouldn't bother going to therapy with your abusive, POS stbxh!

     

    This. He's not going to change, pretty sure of that. You need individual therapy and to GTFO of that house.

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  • Please stop making excuses. And it is not a good idea to see the same therapist for individual counseling and marital counseling.
  • Well this was already scheduled and will be the last visit with my H because I will be filing for a divorce next week .
  • imageimdonel8r:
    Well this was already scheduled and will be the last visit with my H because I will be filing for a divorce next week .

    May I ask... wtf is the point of going to marriage counseling with a person you're planning on divorcing anyway.  Are you secretly hoping that your H magically understands THIS time and changes his way?

    Honey, I know it hurts to admit... BUT IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.  No matter how badly you want it to.  The quicker you realize that you're married to a jerk who has no capacity to be a good partner in life, the quicker you'll be on the road to happiness. 

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  • Seriously - you have the power to control your situation here or at least your actions in this situation.  You don't HAVE to go to a therapy appointment just because it was scheduled.
  • imageimoan:

    imageimdonel8r:
    Well this was already scheduled and will be the last visit with my H because I will be filing for a divorce next week .

    May I ask... wtf is the point of going to marriage counseling with a person you're planning on divorcing anyway.  Are you secretly hoping that your H magically understands THIS time and changes his way?

    Honey, I know it hurts to admit... BUT IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.  No matter how badly you want it to.  The quicker you realize that you're married to a jerk who has no capacity to be a good partner in life, the quicker you'll be on the road to happiness. 

     

    No. I know he wont change.  I  just can't leave the house yet so i have to kind of go along with whats going on.

  • Tell him that you can't go for some reason.  Tell him you're not feeling well.  Tell him that the therapist called and told you that you needed to reschedule.  I honestly feel like it's downright dangerous to go to therapy with your abuser.  
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  • The reason for the appointment and your goal from therapy would be a good beginning.

    The first visit generally is a social history.

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