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Michelle Duggar had a miscarriage
Just read it, can't remember the website but I remember thinking it was legit. People Magazine, maybe?
I was a loud proponent of her stopping with the kiddos, but this is really really sad. I hope they can find some peace with it.
Re: Michelle Duggar had a miscarriage
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I'm sorry for their loss, but honestly, I feel the same way. I mean...HER life was threatened with the last pregnancy, and that poor little girl was born so, so early and struggled for HER life. I just couldn't do it again if I were them.
I wonder if that is her first one? With all of the pregnancies she's had, you'd think statistically, she would've had at least one before.
I'm always sad for anyone who loses a pregnancy, so I feel the same for them. But I do think they should just be done. They could've quit while they were ahead x19!
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Her 2nd pregnancy was miscarried while she was taking BCP. This is when they decided "God will decide" how many children they will be blessed with.
This is so sad. I absolutely can not imagine going from the excitement of finding out if you're having a boy or a girl to finding out you're not having a baby at all.
And I really don't understand why people (not really anybody here specifically...but over all the boards) are so up in arms about them choosing to have more children. While I don't think I would make the decision that they have, this is a decision that is entirely between Michelle and JimBob.
I feel for them as I do anyone who has a miscarriage. I can't imagine it hurts any less if you're losing your first baby, your 10th or your 20th.
However, Jo, speaking just for me, I think the issue people take is because of what happened to Josie. Both Michelle and Josie's lives were in danger and it seems like they both really dodged a bullet. Given that, it just seems somehow irresponsible and selfish to do it again. I also think that if the same thing happened to someone and Josie was their first....there would not be the same backlash. But, Josie was their 19th.....and it's kind of like you think children are such a blessing...step back and enjoy your blessings. You have NINETEEN and if you got sick and died during another risky pregnancy you could leave 19 kids motherless.
ETA: But, you're totally right that it's their decision to make as a couple....however they've also chosen to live their lives in the public eye which opens you up to public judgment and scrutiny. Double edged sword.
Exactly. Yes, I'm sorry for their loss, but the body can only produce so many children. Josie proved that she's aging and running out of the capability to produce healthy babies. At some point you have to stop being selfish and careless.
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Agreed.
I don't think its selfishness that keeps them getting pregnant. I think its a truly unwavering faith in God.
Its not my cup of tea, but being Catholic, I understand the thought process. I just could never apply it in my own life, and I think applying it to the extreme they have is crazycakes.
Definitely this. I think their intentions are "pure," it's just that--yeah, in this day and age, it sounds looney toons. Really, you could take all sorts of aspects of "faith in God" and twist it as it relates to how you live your life. This is a bad example (I'm too tired to think of a better one), but if I'm unemployed and have an unwavering faith in God that all things will work out as they should, can I sit on my ass on the couch and just wait for him to make things happen for me?
I don't know, I still don't get them--it's one of those times where the "you know what causes that, don't you?" line is appropriate. She has had 19 kids, she knows when she's fertile. You don't have to be on birth control not to have 19 kids.
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I have no idea if this is true or not, but I heard someone say when they first found out about #20 that one of their very first pregnancies was a lot like #19's and so their opinion is that they went on to have so many other healthy babies and that it could happen at any time and it was up to God. Plus, their kids are godly, well-behaved children... not menaces to society like some people with only one or two.
I'm not saying I agree with their decision to keep popping them out, but in reality it's not hurting any of "us" so she may go on to have a perfectly normal pregnancy next time... should they be blessed with another.
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I have a similar view as Jo, I don't see why people are so worked up over their choice. My thoughts to the response of what happened with #19, is that if that were baby #1, would you tell them to never try for baby #2? So while your arguement seems reasonable I still think it comes down to people are just unsettled with their choice to have 20+ kids if God let them.
However, I do agree with Heather's point in that, we know how babies are made and there are ways to attempt to avoid getting pregnant, how about we put some of those processes into place. . .
This is kind of how I feel. They feel like God will give them as many children as they can handle, but, come on. At some point you need to take some responsibility for your own lives and you can't just put everything into the hands of God/fate/chance/whatever. There's no reason to have that many children when you can easily avoid your fertile times. They're clearly trying to get pregnant over and over again and not just putting it in God's hands and it's very likely at this point, she'll have some serious difficulty with any pregnancy she has.