Random poll on phone privacy

weezie825 · December 2011

This is sort of a spin off from a thread on another board...

Backstory- On another board someone and her husband got in a huge fight becuase she found something on his phone and confronted him about it. The guy is pissed because she "violated his trust" by going through his phone...

So, do you have an expectation of privacy with your cell phone? Would you be upset if you spouse looked at what you had been doing?

weezie825 · December 2011

My husband and I don't have an expectation of privacy when it comes to cell phones or computers. We both use whatever device is most convenient. If it is in our house we both have access to it.

I don't think my husband is particularly interested in digging through my internet history, but if he did all he'd find is about 5 sites on Kate Middleton fashion and lots of Bejeweled. His history is a lot of C.Net reviews on all the technology stuff. I guess it doesn't matter so much for us becuase we are boring. LOL.

ShandaB · December 2011

We don't have expectationsof privacy with cell phones or computers either. I really don't care if DH looks at my calls or computer activity because I have nothing to hide. In the words of Dr. Phil, those who have nothing to hide hide nothing.

I do understand that some people may feel that going through a spouse's phone/computer is a sign of lack of trust but for some reason I just don't get my panties in a bunch about it.

kelleymark82606 · December 2011

He can look at my phone if he wants and I can look at his. I get annoyed when he reads my text messages first, but that's nothing major

I'm of of the mindset that if you have a problem with your spouse grabbing your phone and looking at it or using it, then chances are you have something to hide.

Bailey1806 · December 2011

I might be annoyed.. because a friend might e-mail me or text me something in confidence, and I don't always share my friends' business with DH. But DH barely even checks his own phone for texts & messages so I doubt he would have the time or inclination to check mine. But if you are going through a spouse's phone because of a "lack of trust" and you find something incriminating, then obviously you are founded in your lack of trust... if I cheated on DH and he found it in my phone, it would be ludicrous for me to get mad at DH for looking at my phone. Obviously, there would be a bigger problem.

SarahKate31 · December 2011

I think we have an unspoken expectation of some privacy. I don't use/look at DH's phone and he doesn't use/look at mine. I have occasionally answered a call on his phone when he was not available but I feel weird doing it. We also each have our own computer and don't usually share. It's not that we're secretive or that either of us has anything to hide, but I guess we are just used to a little privacy.

I've heard of this situation where one person finds evidence of cheating on their partner's phone/email. My feeling is that while the one partner's privacy was violated, that pales in comparison to the other partner's cheating.

daisyterp · December 2011

I think anyone who thinks anything on their phone is 100% private is an idiot- whether married or not. Not that anyone would want to hack into my or my DH's phone, but still. I don't think anyone should expect anything they communicate electronically to be 100% confidential or private.

lenebene · December 2011

There is no privacy, if DH wants to look, he is more than welcome too.

misscastle · December 2011

I wouldn't be thrilled if my husband was randomly checking my text messages because it would mean he doesn't trust me. However, if he checked them and found something, then I would say I have no right to be mad because I shouldn't be texting inappropriately, know what I mean?

In the end, I don't check DH's phone and I don't think he looks at mine because there's nothing to find.

KathrynMD · December 2011

I expect my phone/texts/emails to be private, but there's nothing to really keep private, kwim? If I was doing something that I didn't want DH to find out about or vice versa, that activity would be a bigger issue than the invasion of privacy.

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