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counseling?
So this may be a little long and rambling, but I just need to get some stuff out there and get some others advice.
I don't know how much of my back story I've told. But I was the one that wanted the divorce. May will be two years that we've been divorced. No children. Pretty simple divorce.
I'm pretty sure he's getting engaged soon (he sent me a text asking about the appraisal paperwork for the engagement ring -- i gave it back to him because the center diamond was an heirloom). All the sudden my mind is going crazy. I have no desire to still be with him. But the fact that I'm no where near where I had perfectly planned in my head really started to bother me.
After the divorce I spoke with a counselor for like six visits and at the end she said she I was good, but if I needed to come back. This is where I'm torn.
I want a relationship. I have the core values in mind of the person I want to be in a relationship with. I admit I have a void that I need to be filled. And I fill that with people that don't meet those core values. I have this mentality that I'll have fun with this person or that person but when something with potential comes along I'll take it seriously. And obviously that is working out really well for me...
I am aware that this is not working for me and that I need to change that mentality. My friend just said "its easier to give in to what your head tells you than what your heart wants and needs." I feel like what she said is exactly what I'm going through. I just need to have a stronger heart and not give into my head so often.
So I guess to kind of wrap this whole thing up...obviously I know what I need to do. Do you see any reason to go back to my counselor and talk to her some more (I would have six free sessions through my work EAP)?
Re: counseling?