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Couple Counseling Appt - Big Day!
First off, I need to say I love this board and you girls all rock majorly. You really have provided me with hope. In my real life, I have no friends who are divorced or separated or who remotely understand what I'm going through so I am just so happy to have this board as a starting point.
Anyway, today is a big day. My DH and I have a couples counseling appointment and I think I just need to start being honest. Last time, I got really confused and just went along with the counselor's recs and somehow I found myself agreeing to work on it and date him all over again.
This is almost impossible to admit, but I don't want to work on it anymore. I already worked on it for our whole marriage. I'm so thrilled he is getting himself together and really working on himself. I love him more than anything and am so proud of everything he has accomplished since starting counseling. BUT I love myself too.
Even after all the processing I have done, I don't know everything that went wrong or why. I don't really know who is to blame or not. I don't know much yet. But there is one small thing I know for sure....
The marriage brought out the very worst in me. I said and did things I never thought I would say or do. I am sure I had a huge hand in this and I plan to explore that. But I know, with certainty, this marriage made me someone I was not proud of. or even liked. So I guess in the end, it wasn't about choosing him or not him. It was always about choosing me.
Wish me luck that I can somehow convey this effectively in counseling today!
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