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when will the are you having kids questions cease?
its not just family but they are the worst offenders. i mean, i'm in my 40s. do i need to get a facial tattoo that reads "baby not on board - ever?"
Re: when will the are you having kids questions cease?
Never.
You can stop some people by clutching your lower abdomen, bursting into tears, and choking out "My doctor says I'm not supposed to get upset", however.
Oh gosh hilarious! I just wonder if I'll be a senior citizen and them still asking. I mean I know women older than me that have had kids but it's at the point where its getting a little silly. My H says I look much younger so peeps don't realize how old I really am but my family, they know!
You've got to develop a tough skin and some blunt retorts.
One would think that "when hell freezes over" (which is my usual response!) would be blunt enough, but no! I was actually looking forward to getting older b/c I thought this crap would stop, but no! I don't know why people can't stay out of my uterus!
Yep. Until you actually produce a child, or maybe at the age of 60.
People are SO annoying. DH and I were married 6 years before we were blessed with DS. I once got so sick of BIL's GF asking me nonstop about it that I said, "Well I keep swallowing and swallowing but nothing is happening."
DS wasn't 5 weeks old when people were up my ass about another one. Seriously, people?! I had the worst recovery too, it took me a long time to even think about DOING what you need to do to get pregnant, much less squeeze another one out of me.
People are so annoying, have I said that?
Hilarious!!
... We've been married for one month and that's the first thing people ask when they see us. I'm used to it already but totally annoyed nonetheless.
Ugh so true. I guess I just have to stop caring.
The funniest comment came from an older 50 something friend who never had kids said "So, are you planning to use your uterus?" I told her I know she has a small apartment and asked her if she was hoping to store something in there?
LOL! I like how your friend asked, wildstyle.
I'm on the fence, leaning toward never having kids, and I just know my Hispanic family will flip right the F out when they know. They already freaked when I said it'd be about ten years before we even considered it--mind you, the hubby and I had been married for two months, I'm 23, and I've JUST started a 5-year PhD program.
Nobody EVER asked me or my spouse when or if we'd have them, and I assume it's because there was NO DOUBT in anybody's mind that it would NEVER happen. Really, not a peep about it.
I've always felt bad for women who have to endure such questions, because I never did; and I think it happens to them because the 'door hasn't been shut' until she verbally shuts it, or until menopause.
Sorry you're going through this.
Yes I thought that was so funny! What was even funnier was, she had the office across from mine and she just walked out her door and asked as if she were saying "by the way, do you want me to grab you some coffee?".
My friend who is hispanic is child free and her family is very much in denial. She's in her late 40s and they are still asking her!
I'm in my 40s and I have no plans to have biological children. I never wanted them, ever. What I would like to do is adopt an older sibling group - this is all I have ever wanted to do. I am very passionate about this, and I explain this over and over but still, people think I'm going to pop out a baby. Generally they ignore the fact that I want to adopt.
I guess not EVERYONE (and I do not care if a stranger asks) but certainly my family and friends do - I have been super vocal about it! As I mentioned in another post, I am considering adopting older children from foster care - this is the only way I ever wanted to be a parent if I became one at all b/c I feel that so many kids are unwanted. I feel very strongly about this. I have felt this way for many years and I've been saying it for ages but people do not seem to think this is a vaild choice or something.
Or until you're 80. Fertile octogenarian, baby.
Well, if I look young enough to be asked at 80, they can ask away!
When you pop one out it will stop for 5 mins...
I have been married for a whole 6 weeks and that is ALL we hear from friends, family and work people. I wish people had boundries!
We resorted to comments like:
"Every time you ask, we wait longer."
It works for the "when are you getting married" questions too.
It seemed to work for us. But now we have a toddler and another on the way... lol
However in your position, I would quite seriously tell the family members that it isnt happening and that it is very rude of them to keep asking. not to mention damaging to you emotionally.