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Oh boy this could get interesting... LIP

Start with this one

http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/61108549.aspx

then go to this one. There is a link to it in the first one. 

http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/61106030.aspx

All I can say is I hope she is on BC and that they talk about this before she goes off and gets an IUD without telling him.

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Re: Oh boy this could get interesting... LIP

  • Wow...and she has only been married a month. 
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  • I'd get an IUD in her shoes too. Her husband raped her. She didn't consent to what he did in her vagina.  

    Look at me, being all pro-choice.  

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  • imageMrsOjoButtons:

    I'd get an IUD in her shoes too. Her husband raped her. She didn't consent to what he did in her vagina.  

    Look at me, being all pro-choice.  

    I can see getting the IUD, honestly. But really they should talk about all this first, before she makes her final decision. 

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  • imageErikandAfton:
    imageMrsOjoButtons:

    I'd get an IUD in her shoes too. Her husband raped her. She didn't consent to what he did in her vagina.  

    Look at me, being all pro-choice.  

    I can see getting the IUD, honestly. But really they should talk about all this first, before she makes her final decision. 

    He gives her the silent treatment and rapes her. She should get the IUD to prevent being stuck with him by means of procreation, but this is one of those times when I love that people have divorce as an option. That man has no respect for her.  For me, there would be no conversation, save the one he could have with my attorney, if in fact that wasn't mud. 

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  • imageMrsOjoButtons:
    imageErikandAfton:
    imageMrsOjoButtons:

    I'd get an IUD in her shoes too. Her husband raped her. She didn't consent to what he did in her vagina.  

    Look at me, being all pro-choice.  

    I can see getting the IUD, honestly. But really they should talk about all this first, before she makes her final decision. 

    He gives her the silent treatment and rapes her. She should get the IUD to prevent being stuck with him by means of procreation, but this is one of those times when I love that people have divorce as an option. That man has no respect for her.  For me, there would be no conversation, save the one he could have with my attorney, if in fact that wasn't mud. 

    I couldn't have said it better myself, Ojo.  I really, REALLY  don't understand why so many posters are insisting that she should have a conversation with him about this issue.  Counseling I agree with if she thinks there's something redeemable or teachable in him, but no way should she let him have a say in her decision about birth control.  It's not like an IUD is permanent, and I wouldn't trust a douchebag like him not to mess with any other method of BC.

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  • imageMrsOjoButtons:

    He gives her the silent treatment and rapes her. She should get the IUD to prevent being stuck with him by means of procreation, but this is one of those times when I love that people have divorce as an option. That man has no respect for her.  For me, there would be no conversation, save the one he could have with my attorney, if in fact that wasn't mud. 

    I normally would be against making reproductive decisions without consulting one's spouse, but in this case, I agree with Ojo. Her husband has violated her with the intention of using her body to procreate against her wishes.

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  • imageStarJay:
    imageMrsOjoButtons:

    He gives her the silent treatment and rapes her. She should get the IUD to prevent being stuck with him by means of procreation, but this is one of those times when I love that people have divorce as an option. That man has no respect for her.  For me, there would be no conversation, save the one he could have with my attorney, if in fact that wasn't mud. 

    I normally would be against making reproductive decisions without consulting one's spouse, but in this case, I agree with Ojo. Her husband has violated her with the intention of using her body to procreate against her wishes.

    I completely agree with the above posts.

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  • imageericandmarie:
    imageStarJay:
    imageMrsOjoButtons:

    He gives her the silent treatment and rapes her. She should get the IUD to prevent being stuck with him by means of procreation, but this is one of those times when I love that people have divorce as an option. That man has no respect for her.  For me, there would be no conversation, save the one he could have with my attorney, if in fact that wasn't mud. 

    I normally would be against making reproductive decisions without consulting one's spouse, but in this case, I agree with Ojo. Her husband has violated her with the intention of using her body to procreate against her wishes.

    I completely agree with the above posts.

    The more I am thinking about it the more what you all have pointed out makes sense. 

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  • I hope she got a Plan-B in the appropriate time frame :-( 

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  • imageMrsOjoButtons:

    I hope she got a Plan-B in the appropriate time frame :-( 

    Amen.

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  • I hate to sound like an idiot but what is MUD? I didn't see anything about him raping her. Did I miss it?
  • imageIlovemyAirmanforever:
    I hate to sound like an idiot but what is MUD? I didn't see anything about him raping her. Did I miss it?
    Made up drama. When a person does not consent to a sexual act (in this case, the guy ejaculating inside her) that is assault. Just like a woman can consent to vaginal penetration, but if he penetrates her anally, that is assault. They had an agreement he would not ejaculate inside her, but he did anyway, against her wishes. 
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