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What would you do?

MH's friend got married and they are having an open house at the church about 2 hours away from home (his hometown) tomorrow at 630. Well, my work party is tomorrow here at 630 and it is my last one...MH is planning on going to his friend's open house which I have no problem with....I just wanted to go to both...I wanted to see his friend's wife's wedding dress and go to an open house that was not my own...I don't know his friend or his friend's wife (I've met them a few times), but I'd still like to go...

I can't make both...

WWYD? 

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Re: What would you do?

  • I'd get off the computer and go snuggle up with my husband, and thank my lucky starts that I have a wonderful party to go to, with people who really appreciate me, that I will be sorry to leave.  And I'd thank my stars that I have a husband who is going to a party by himself and not giving me any crap about going alone.  And I wouldn't think one more second about how I wanted to go to both parties when that's just not possible.
  • It sounds like you'd regret missing the work party more than the open house. Since the people hosting the open house are friends of your H, it should be good with just him going. It sounds like you actually want to go to the work party, but with the open house you only want to go to see the new wife's dress, which you can see in pictures.

    Go, have fun at the work party, and send your H with your best wishes. 

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  • i'd go to the work party.  assuming you like your co-workers.
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  • I'm a little confused - did you go to the wedding, or did they have a destination wedding and now you can see her dress? 

    This is the holidays  - there are tons of parties and you can't make all of them.  People understand!  If you like your work friends, I'd go to the office party.  You won't see a lot of these people after you move on.  If you really don't like the people from work, then the open house is a perfect excuse to miss the office party!

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  • If part of the regret is that you want to become better friends with this couple, then just make plans for a double date sometime in the future.  I'm guessing a work party will be a lot more fun than driving four hours for an open house at a church. 
  • imageKristin789:
    I'd get off the computer and go snuggle up with my husband, and thank my lucky starts that I have a wonderful party to go to, with people who really appreciate me, that I will be sorry to leave.  And I'd thank my stars that I have a husband who is going to a party by himself and not giving me any crap about going alone.  And I wouldn't think one more second about how I wanted to go to both parties when that's just not possible.

    oookay! Are you the same annoying Kristen789 from the knot? 

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  • I wouldn't worry about going to an open house, if they are your H's friends you will get to see their home. He can tell the couple you would like to get together after the holidays. The dress you can see in a photo. You probably will not get an opportunity to say good bye to your work friends at an office party. If you keep this up you will make yourself not enjoy what should be a good time for both of you (even at separate parties).
  • Work is work.  Work parties are really more forced 'social' events. I'd go to the wedding open house, and give your regrets to the work party.
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    imageKristin789:
    I'd get off the computer and go snuggle up with my husband, and thank my lucky starts that I have a wonderful party to go to, with people who really appreciate me, that I will be sorry to leave.  And I'd thank my stars that I have a husband who is going to a party by himself and not giving me any crap about going alone.  And I wouldn't think one more second about how I wanted to go to both parties when that's just not possible.

    oookay! Are you the same annoying Kristen789 from the knot? 

    I have no doubt.

  • I'm confused on what is a post-wedding "open house", but aside from that, I would most likely attend the work party.  You said it yourself, you have met the friend & friend's wife a few times, but your CW's are people you see & work with everyday. 

    On a side note, I think it's nice when a company acknowledges the holidays and throws a holiday party for its employees.  I work for a non-profit organization and a few CW's and myself are going to dinner tomorrow night because our company doesn't throw any kind of celebration for their employees other than the management & higher up in the company. 

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