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Dating websites: Difference between free and pay sites?

I've done POF and now I'm on okcupid.  I'm not meeting very quality guys, for the most part.  Some of the messages I get, well, they are just plain bad, and the dates, even worse.   I'm thinking of joining Match after the holidays. Right now I'm on a dating hiatus because I couldn't stand the thought of going on any more bad dates.  Do the guys on Match tend to be more quality then some of these dudes?  I really am over this whole thing LOL.

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Re: Dating websites: Difference between free and pay sites?

  • I think there is a difference between the quality of guys, but at the same time I think the whole online dating scene is a complete nightmare.  I was on eHarmony a long time ago, and now I'm on match - I haven't had a ton of success on any of the sites. 
  • Yes, I think there is a difference, but in the same breath, I have also communicated with some douchebags on the paid sites.  The quality of the men on those sites varies greatly with geography.  In some areas/cities, the free ones are just as good but in others they're not.  POF isn't big where I live but Match is great. 

    I really think it depends where you live and a lot of it is trial and error.  Before paying, I'd sign up as a free member on Match--they will often email you with free weekends or trial subscriptions to see if you like it.

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  • Where I live (Mass) it just seems the free sites are full of a lot more idiots. My friend who moved to LA on the other hand, has had more luck with POF than when she was here. I met my BF through Match (but believe me, there were plenty of idiots haunting that site too, one who still texts me almost 7 months later although I've never responded) Online dating in general is tough in my opinion but it seems you get what you pay for - nothing! on the free ones. My friend and I actually call POF Plenty of Ish.
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  • I've had horrible luck with OKC, and I'm currently on match and have met a few people.  There are actually a lot of quality people in my area on match, and I've been pleasantly surprised.  You do have to weed through some yuckies though.  I'm pretty selective though.  :)
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