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Can I complain about my MIL for a minute?
Last night I went to dinner with my MIL and my mom to celebrate Macy's 2nd birthday. While we were there the conversation turned to the new baby and the due date. The due date is June 27th (which more than likely my c-section will be scheduled earlier) and my H's and BIL's childhood BFF will be getting married in TN on June 23rd.
My mother in law made the comment, "oh no, I won't be there then, I have to go to Ryan's wedding. I promised him I wouldn't miss his day. Weddings are very important."
I asked her if she was going to come out immediately after the wedding and she said "Oh, well, I can't take two weeks off in a row at my work. That just isn't going to work. I will just see you guys when you come to visit in Orlando."
Umm, what? You are going to take a week off for the wedding in TN? And skip the birth of your second grandchild? Oh and BTW, I have made it clear that our travel schedule is going to drastically slow down this upcoming year.
While it would probably be better for me if she didn't come (too much time with her and I start to go nuts) I know my H's feelings will be hurt. He is very low maintenance but he has a soft spot for his parent's not always making him important in their life.
The only reason why she wants to go to this wedding is because the kid getting married is marrying Rudy Giuliani's niece. The wedding will be expensive, over the top and Mr. Giuliani himself will be there. Don't get me wrong, I would like to attend the wedding too. It won't be the traditional run of the mill wedding. But I think she has a bigger obligation to her son and her future grandchild to come for that important day (or at least during that time).
And then she had a few other off the wall comments that really got under my skin. I will spare you those boring details but I have had my fill of MIL BS for this trip.
Baby Macy is here!
12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism
Re: Can I complain about my MIL for a minute?
Some people are so self serving.
H's grandmother (on his mother's side) missed our wedding because she HAD to schedule an unnecessary surgery on her knee. (Her recovery time was less than a week, and she had it done a month before.) Rob is the first of the grand kids to get married, and she missed it. Then, H's cousin got married when I was pregnant. The wedding was in VA and there was no way I was traveling eight months pregnant, I would have died. And we didn't know if Rob would even have a job by then. You know what she said to him? "Well, I think that it is really important that we make sacrifices to be together in times like these." Yes. that biitch said those words. I'm glad she didn't say them to me.
Then a few months ago they went on a trip to Paris after she was telling us they couldn't possibly make it down to FLORIDA to see their ONLY great grand child. Yeah. F-ck her.
Anyway, I'm sorry.
It is so unfortunate that there are people who don't have their priorities in order. New grandbaby > Rudy G.
Oh, that is bad. And how could you pass up Bean? I mean she is so stinkin' cute. Yeah, eff her :P
Initially I just blew off her comment last night but the more I thought about it the more it pissed me off. The way she said it, she was so sure, like she didn't even weigh the situation and felt torn on what to do. She was so matter of fact with she was going to the wedding and that was that.
Maybe when the time comes my FIL will talk some sense into her. He's pretty level headed although sometimes he just goes with the flow because it's easier than dealing with her rational.
Baby Macy is here!
12/09 - Macy (daughter) | 4/10 - Began TTC Baby #2 | 12/10 - Chemical Pregnancy | 1/12 - Miscarriage at 14 weeks | DX - PCOS & Hyperthyroidism
WOW. If it were me, I would call her on it, or at least have you H say something. I could understand her not being able to make it b/c of money, economy, blah blah blah, but to choose a wedding over it?
Families suck. My niece moved in with us to get her life straight and has been searching for a job with no luck. She finally, just got an interview and my mom won't even let my H drop my niece off in the morning, to hang out at her house, until a friend can pick her up to take her to the interview (in Tampa). I would take her, but I can't reschedule Lila's 9mo appt, unless I want to get in after the holidays.
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lol Nicole!
MrsJason, that is definately effed up. My H would really be hurt ie angry. He is still mad at his dad for messing up his dates and missing our baby shower, much less if he missed the birth, and for a wedding. Ugh, I'm mad for you.