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Here's a gem! (DB XH email)
Had to email XH about getting a Jewish divorce and he's going off his rocker again. After telling him something he didn't want to hear (he actually expected me to give him a check for half the amount of the Jewish divorce and I told him I'd be paying the officiant instead), he emailed me the following.
Cray cray XH: "Seriously, if you died tomorrow I would not attend your funeral. Let's
just finish this. Thanks."
My response: "Don't worry, my parents would have security there to make sure you couldn't come in."
I know I shouldn't have replied, but I really needed a good laugh and just cracked myself up! Is it Tuesday yet?!
ETA: He responded: "Don't worry, I find time between benders to stop by and spit on your grave...."
Yeah, I'm not playing this game any longer.
Re: Here's a gem! (DB XH email)
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
Weeeee, someone has some serious resentment. Let's hope time will make it better.
ETA: I also had a question. It seems to me after reading your posts that being married was of the utmost importance to him, right? Is he ashamed of being divorced/single?
::clears throat::
If I may, MCC....I would say that being married was important because it served his purpose of, for all appearances, being "normal". He was able to blend in better in the role of "husband". Also, MCC is like a possession that he has lost. He's not sad that he is no longer married or that he misses her, he's simply angry that she escaped his clutches, much like a child would be if they lost their favorite toy.
Yeah, this is pretty much it. He flips whenever I assert myself bc he can no longer control me. He has since told me he wished I could get into a car accident on the way home and be in a coma for the rest of my life. I called my atty and advised XH that if he doesn't stop, I will have to protect myself from him. He has since apologized profusely, swore he wouldn't do it again, blah blah. Next time I am filing for a TRO citing a pattern of threatening behavior.
::golf claps:: Well said.
Thanks, I thought it was funny too. Last night he was apologizing and again this morning.
Today's response: "At this point, your apologies are akin to bailing out the Titanic with a spoon."
He asked if I'm going to commence legal action against him now, as I told him I might. I think I'll let him sweat this out--mwahhahahaha!
And to think, just a few days ago he was thanking you for being his shoulder to cry on. If you needed confirmation that he doesn't think of you as a person, just a prop in his own life, this is it.
As tempting as it is to respond to him, I think you're better off letting it go. The best way to show a manipulative, abusive person that he doesn't have control over you is to show him that his existence is irrelevant. If you feel the need to get a restraining order, pursue it by all means, but do not have any more direct contact with him beyond that necessary to get the divorce.