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Tell me why you can be a terrible person.
Please make me feel better about myself.
I will go first:
I love it when I am right - like majorly right - I will never say "I told you so" because it isn't appropriate, but I will, in my own manipulative way, continue to rub salt in the wound over and over again. Because I feel like, hypothetically, if you are going to be completely sh!tty to say, your kid because you are an idiot, and it turns out your kid and/or his kid's wife is right, then you deserve it.
That is why (today) I am a sh!tty person.
Re: Tell me why you can be a terrible person.
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I have a terrible memory = I come off as incredibly thoughtless and irresponsible at times. I also suck at keeping in touch with anyone who is not my mom... Basically, I would have no idea what was going on in the lives of some of my best girlfriends if it wasnt for Facebook.
I am really close with a particular extended family member, yet I feel the need to prove my point and tell her she's wrong (in a round-about-way), constantly. We just have totally different ideas of how things should be. She's always negative and has zero compassion for anything... me, on the other hand, I'm always positive, and I understand that things happen due to circumstances and whatnot. It's hard to explain, but she's just very harsh and 'sharp' and it drives me crazy. Not everything is black and white.
I just feel the need to constantly remind her that her views are not the only views out there and that she can't go through life or her future career with no compassion. She refuses to admit that there are other possibilities for things being the way that they are... and I refuse to let it go until she admits it or until I feel like she 'hears' me out. I know it's wrong, but I can't help it.
I guess it's kind of along those same lines as Puppy.
You said what I meant to articulate in a much better way. I do this too.
This is me, too. Sometimes I'll be talking and will suddenly think to myself, "holy shitballs, how manipulative am I?"
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I am guilty of the bolded.
Would this be someone I know?
If you ever need to talk.....
I am here for ya.
Me too. Being a stepmom is rough at times!
On the flipside, I know my fiance gets similarly frustrated at times, but I'm guilty of taking it personally when he complains/vents as if it's an attack on me and my parenting because I consider my kiddo a reflection on me no matter what. Rationally, I know that's not his intention, but emotionally I can't separate the two. It's particularly dumb that I feel like I have to apologize/defend things that Connor's dad does when I AGREE WITH KEVIN.
ditto
Yeaaaah. You know who it is. In fact, it's probably exactly who you think. I love her to pieces and I enjoy spending all that time with her. It's just I wish she wasn't so "short sighted" (for lack of a better word/phrase) when it comes to certain things. And, like I said, I know it's wrong to feel the need to 'make' her see the other side, but I can't help it.
I'm very much a "to each their own" person and am not one to judge others, but there's a certain family member (in law actually) who I judge the sh!t out of. I judge the choices her and her H have made, are making, and will continue to make. I know there will be many more side-eye worthy moments because you definitely cannot fix stupid.
I am terrible about accepting compliments. I don't even realize someone has complimented me until much later.... Therefore, I am terrible about saying "thank you". I hate that! I always realize to late and then I feel really awkward about saying "hey, thanks for that compliment".
I am also terrible about keeping in touch with friends and staying up on all of the "special" days in their lives.
I am closer to DH's aunt than his mother and I like to see MIL squirm when I talk about AIL.
I have a hard time accepting compliments.
I guilt-trip people (trait I picked up from my mother).
I don't reach out to people.
I zone out on phone conversations.
I get jealous easily. I whine and complain a lot. I keep score and tend to hold grudges. I am overly anxious and worry over stupid stuff. I need positive feedback and recognition. Dang. . .I sound swell, lol!
I am really bad about this! I feel bad when I remember about it later and then feel awkward when I see that person again.
I am also a serial guilt tripper especially to DH. I get this from my mother who is the best guilt tripper that I know.
I hold grudges for a long time. I tend to forgive easily but I can't forget.
Thanks ladies!
I'm terribly bossy. I can't help it, been that way all my life! My brother even says he has two moms!
I take meds for my migraines that tend to decrease the effectiveness of my "filter." I say things that 20 min later I think back and say "Holy balls, that was sh!tty!"
I have a potty mouth. I have come to terms with the fact that my son will probably use the word fuuck before he's 3. I don't love it, but I can't make it stop!
I'm terrible about keeping up with my friends! Especially if I can't do it via text message.
I called my sister a douchewagon last week. It was totally warranted, but still not nice.
What do you mean that's the wrong side? Tastes great to me!