International Diss from my sister....

Avion22 · December 2011

So yesterday I was feeling kind of lonely and called home. I don't usually call because of the cost (though my family and I email several times a week), but decided that I would just call anyway.

Turns out that my parents weren't home because they were visiting my sister. Yesterday was my only nephew's Baptism, and nobody bothered to tell me. My sister didn't send me an invitation because she knew I wouldn't be able to make it. If I had known I could have at least sent a gift....

I'm pretty bummed that nobody even told me.

oneslybookworm · December 2011

That's the worst part about living abroad, I think...people assume you can't attend, so no one bothers to tell you things. I'm sorry this happened to you, I'd be bummed too!

If it helps, my family does the exact same thing. My brother got married (just a JOP deal, but still). I didn't find out for nearly a month.

Emily523 · December 2011

I know the feeling. I don't think it's an intentional diss, but it definitely hurts. I want to be invited to all things family related even if I might not be able to make it. My aunts had a baby shower for my sister and didn't send me an invite. That stung a bit. : (

dulcemariamar1 · December 2011

I wouldnt expect an invite but I would expect my family to tell me about it. That is so strange that you email each other and nobody would mention it. I mean, a baptism takes some sort of planning. You would think they would say something to you. That sucks that they didnt tell. (((HUGS)))

PittPurple · December 2011

Yeah, this sort of thing has happened to me too :-( It sucks. We didn't get invited to DH's friend's wedding and we totally would have gone, still a bit upset about it.

Avion22 · December 2011

dulcemariamar1:
I wouldnt expect an invite but I would expect my family to tell me about it. That is so strange that you email each other and nobody would mention it. I mean, a baptism takes some sort of planning. You would think they would say something to you. That sucks that they didnt tell. (((HUGS)))

Exactly. I would have sent a card or a gift or something. I mean, he's my only nephew.

Or, hey, since I'm going to be home in two weeks, maybe they could have done it then???

azure_azure · December 2011

Sorry, that sucks.

Especially if you email and are in contact, they should have let you know about it.

AmericanInOz · December 2011

that stinks (((hugs))

i think sometimes 'out of sight, out of mind' applies

and they may not be doing it to be cruel

even though it is

desmerelda317 · December 2011

Oh that would really really hurt me too and I'm bummed for you. My mother always taught me growing up that you didn't send invites only to the people you knew would come. The purpose of an invite is to let somebody know that you love them and want to include them in whatever special event is happening. It is a statement that basically says "I want you involved in my life" and whether the person can attend or not should have no bearing on whether you send the invite. To not send an invitation to my family for our children's events would be unconscionable to me. Yes, they're half-way around the world from us. And no, they won't be RSVPing "yes." But that doesn't mean they don't deserve to be included in our lives and be knowledgeable of when the big stuff is going on.

dpdw · December 2011

That sucks!!! I have had this type of thing happen more than once with my mother. Her excuse -- she thought that me knowing about the event & not being able to attend would make me feel bad for choosing to live abroad. She doesn't want to make me feel bad about my choice, so she decided not to tell me. Angry Passive-agressive, much??

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