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Why Do They Do This?!
A huge point of contention for me & XH was his inability to do anything about his job. He was miserable & he'd b!tch & moan, but he wouldn't do anything about it. I suggested going back to school, other career fields, job websites, etc etc. In the end, he told me he stayed unhappy at his job because of me (YEAH).
Last night he came by to show our house to a potential renter. 90% of the time, we're really amicable, but I wanted to punch him in the face when he started telling me about applying for a new job in my hometown (where I told him I wanted to move) & how he has a multi-year plan that includes going back to school. It was like the scene in Mean Girls where Lindsay Lohan is picturing the jungle fight, but just smiled & nodded instead.
WHY DO THEY DO THIS? I tried for YEARS to get you to see this crap, asshat! I feel like he's just trying to get a reaction out of me, therefore, I will never let him see me flinch. I'll just call my mom after & scream 
Re: Why Do They Do This?!
Because some guys need a BIG WAKE UP CALL... like their SO leaving them...
They can be dumb.
True dat. He needed a wake up call.
Or he is blowing smoke up your asss.
Maybe he is just trying to rub it in your face.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Yep, I recently heard through the grapevine that my exH has stopped drinking. It was only a point of contention with us because his Dad was an alcoholic. (Hey red flag I ignored!). Anyway, his father died this last month and we divorced earlier in the year, so I do hope that he's decided to make some positive choices and I wish him all the best.
Yeah it is either a wake up call or blowing smoke. Either way, I'm sure his laziness wasn't the only issue so don't make yourself crazy believing that he has changed or your life had the potential to be better with him now that he has made some better decisions.
I like the Mean Girls analogy. I often dream of what I would do if I was in the wild...
Oh I absolutely no way in hell would ever want him back. I *hope* he has made some life decisions, but in all reality, I really don't give a rat's ass if he does. Not my problem anymore!