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s/o Negotiating salary (hi dmarie!)
I have a random question that I honestly don't know the answer to.
Once a company extends you a formal offer, can they take it back?
One note: I have negotiated salary in the past. But I think I'm usually scared to negotiate because I feel like if I say something wrong, or whatever, they might take back their offer, and then I'd be left with nothing.
So? Can they renege? Or, once the offer's on the table, it's there no matter what? (unless you do something illegal, or to violate the terms of employment, etc.)
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Re: s/o Negotiating salary (hi dmarie!)
Haha!! Hi Only! :::waves:::
Yeah I am like you. I am scared sh!tless that they will decide that I am an ass and move onto the next person. Interested in hearing the answers people give.
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Of course they can take it back - they can rescind after you accept, too. Unless you have a signed contract (and really, who does these days unless you're union), they can reneg.
I don't think negotiation reflects badly on you if you do it right. As in - don't demand something outrageous. But if you say "can you do better on PTO or salary" and give specifics, the worst they can say is no. I think most places expect it. (There was a post on MM the other day. The hiring manager was OP and felt sad for the person who just accepted w/o offering, because OP was prepared to offer more $ and time off, but new hire didn't ask.) Consider their offer their starting offer.
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Okay, well, that's officially terrifying. And makes negotiating 100x scarier, and I was already scared to begin with, haha.
But I don't think I always understood that most HR reps expect you to negotiate. That's good to know.
The only time it can backfire is if you're attempting to negotiate with the federal government. I saw one person get an offer rescinded after 2 weeks of back and forth. My boss finally decided that if he was going to be this difficult before starting the position, it wasn't worth it. When the position was offered, you were told that there wasn't room to negotiate, but this person still pushed for 2 weeks.
My takeaway is to try for negotiation once, and if there is no budging, then let it go. And listening to what the people interviewing you are telling you is key.