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Baltimore Couples

Why is it so difficult to meet new couple friends? My husband grew up in a military family so they moved around a lot, and I have never really had a large collection of friends. Anyone else having this issue?

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  • My husband and I live in an area with mostly old people and all our couple friends live like an hour away.  Since most of us have kids it makes it really tough to find time to hand out.

    We actually signed up for a parent education class at our daycare tonight.  It was a topic we were interested ina dn we are hoping to meet some other parents in our area.

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  • Yes we have this issue. The two couples we were friends with moved to other states!

     

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  • We had this issue when we moved, thankfully we found some friends, mostly single. Now that we are back in MD, it is a little hard for us to find new couple friends, especially now since we don't have kids and most of our friends do.

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  • DH and I suck at meeting people because we are real introverts. Our "couple" friends are DH's bro and his wife and DH's bff and his wife. We're nervous about going to this party on Saturday for all the parents at our daycare (4 couples total). We are lame.
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    The only reason I worked up the nerve to go to Rags pool party was because DH promised to go with me.  I totally suck at meeting new people and have all kinds of anxiety about it. 

    We are going to something at DD's daycare tonight.  It is a little easier, because I have met some of the parents in passing.  Also since it is a class, we'll have something common to do and talk about.  I almost feel like I am going on a group date!  LOL.

    I hope you guys have fun on Saturday!

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  • Not sure your family situation and where you live - but I would recommend joining adult sports leagues. We have played BSSC sports for a long time (Baltimore Sports & Social Club) and met a lot of folks that way. If you are not into the bar scene, you may not like it is basically drinking and playing sports. Not saying you have to be a crazier partier because I am certainly not, but it's a lot of fun and a great way to meet people. Their website is baltssc.com. I know Bel Air and Annapolis have adult sports leagues also.
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  • Ditto some of the others, I feel like its been easier now that I have a LO.  You also kinda just need to make an effort.

    DH tried to paticipate in a meetup group, but alot of those really are singles groups, even when they don't advertise themselves that way.

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  • We spend time at least once/week with one family: the husband works with my husband (and has for 10 years), the wife and I are best friends, our daughters are 2 months apart in age, their son is my godson, we do tons together.

    There's another couple, DH's best friend and his wife, that we spend time with a couple of times a year. They come over on Halloween and/or New Year's for a casual night at our house, and we may go to an adults-only dinner occasionally. They don't have kids and while I like the wife, I'm not close to her, so we don't spend nearly as much time with them.

    I can't say we really try to meet people, though. I have a couple of girlfriends, DH has a couple of guy friends he sees regularly for gaming, we have a social group from the renaissance festival that we hang out with during that time of the year, but that's it. I'm awkward in social situations and DH is a little shy, so we suck at making friends.

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  • We suck at making friends too...It took us a long time to get up the nerve to go to our young adult group at church and that's finally where we met (couples and singles) friends. But we both hate new situations like that and get awkward and nervous.
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  • My husband is shy, I am not as much.  We don't really do things with other couples, its just not our nature I guess.

    I've been connecting more with some of the parents in Kira's class but its tough.

  • I agree with the rec to join a sports league... there is also the Kickball League of Baltimore. I don't even drink at most of my games and I still have a good time. I actually joined a team without DH this season, I knew like 4 people on the team and the rest are new friends!

    As an aside, both DH and I grew up here so we still have most of our high school friends to hang out with... sometimes it's a battle about which group to hang out with, his or mine? During our marriage prep we discussed this with our officiant and he told us that it won't matter after awhile because all of our friends will end up being the parents of our kids' friends! It was an extremely depressing thought at the time, but I can see how it could end up being true, esp when your "old friends" end up going through life's milestones at different times.

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  • I'm over in Frederick, but we have the same problem over here!  There aren't really any young teachers except for one that lives out in Hagerstown and one that is 23 and her boyfriend lives in Georgia, so she is gone all the time.  And at Dh's office, he is now the supervisor for most of the people that are our age, so he can't really do (or doesn't feel comfortable doing) anything outside of work.  Sooo we're pretty stuck in a rut too.
  • We are in a young couples meetup.com group that we joined a couple years ago, and it has been fun. 
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