Trouble in Paradise
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S/O how much you spend on your SO
A couple of you so far have indicated that you think your SO spends more on you. Do you not feel guilty about that? That's why I wanted to set a limit. XH used to be ridiculous about it and wouldn't set limits so he'd spend way more on me and it made me sad.
Re: S/O how much you spend on your SO
I don't think you should feel guilty about it. When we were dating sometimes I would spend more than my H and sometimes he'd spend more. It all depends on what you think will make that person happy that year. If your S/O is going out and just buying expensive stuff to win an imaginary competition, then I'd be more worried about moeny management skills in the long term than feeling guilty for a day!
The main reason we have a budget now is so we can save more. It's not mine and his money anymore, it's ours, so we agreed on an amount we thought was ok.
H always spends more on me than I do on him. I have tried feeling guilty, I have tried topping him by spending more (a game I never win no matter how outrageous I get), and I've tried not caring.
So far, the reaction that feels best to me is allowing myself to be lavished with presents and not minding that he loves me more than I love him. That works pretty well.
BBE you crack me up!
I used to feel a little guilty, especially when I was broke the last 2 years, but I could give H a pair of socks and he would appreciate it so much. And I cannot stop H from over-buying. That's just how he is. I have to get him to hold back on gifts for his niece and nephew because I don't want him to show up with more than what Santa brought them.
He loves shopping, and he loves nice things and he loves spoiling me. Everyone wins.
I don't really feel guilty when this happens for Christmas. We usually set a limit and stick pretty close to it, although this year I think I will win, although he hasn't done any shopping for me as of yet.
The only time I feel guilty is when we say we aren't doing anything for say like V-day, and he goes and buys me a $300 watch. Then I feel like a schmuk.