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What are some emotions YOU experience(d) during your divorce process?
Joy, jubulation, depression, sadness, etc....
Re: What are some emotions YOU experience(d) during your divorce process?
Geez, there were a ton all mixed up.
The top 5 were probably extreme sadness, relief, guilt, sorrow, insecurity -- as I was going through it.
Now I'm wistful. I'm sorry we couldn't work things out, but glad we split so cleanly. I'm grateful we're still friends, and I'm happy that we're both getting another shot at love. I hope we each get it right.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
anger, relief...
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
pretty much just three: sadness, disappointment, & loss
I should be angry due to infidelity & lies but I can only feel sadness.
Where's that chart I think Only posted awhile ago.. with the bell curve of emotion? Anyone else remember that? I was fascinated by it and the responses.
In 7 months I definitely went from pure relief to sadness to hateful anger and right now I'm at mostly bitter or disappointed. We aren't even close to being legally divorced so I have quite the feeling that hateful anger will be resurfacing well before this is over.
Unadulterated glee.
Except when he called to say that he ran over a moped driver with his SUV and was being sued and they might come after me because the divorce wasn't final yet.
Actually he didn't say "I ran over a moped driver with my SUV." He said, "I got hit by a moped." As I pried for more details it became clear that he had made an illegal left hand turn and in doing so, he ran over a moped that was driving in the opposite direction.
At that point I felt unadulterated rage, and it was a good thing he was thousands of miles away.
The process took almost 1.5 years so...
At the begining: Shock, saddness, disbelief, anger, and though not an emotion, I had frequent attacks of nasuea.
Towards the middle: Anger, anger, frustration, fear and anger
Near the end: Happiness, joy, excitement and relief.
ETA:wrong word
sh!t ain't no bell curve... hahaha!
it's not very precise. But I think the main point is the MAJOR and FREQUENT ups and downs
haha true story! Thanks for reposting though.
Mine was similar to this - mostly relief as I had already felt grief and anger and a flood of other emotions in the year or so leading up to the divorce. Well really, probably through most of the marriage if I'm being honest.
I did feel a little ashamed that I was getting a divorce after only being married for 3 years (3 years of being miserable). But I got over that right quick when I realized how much happier I was. And after my cousin told me "if anyone says anything about it, fvck em". I concurred with her statement
This was me, too, but I flip-flopped between relief/the hope of starting fresh, and fear that I'd never find the a compatible match after not one, but *two* failed marriages.
(FWIW, I did find that match.)
I've had every single emotion - confusion, guilt, shame, sadness, happiness, excitement, hopeful, angry, justified, crazy...you name it. I have learned to just take each emotion as it comes, acknowledge it and then distract myself. For awhile, I was bottling it up and it came out in the worst ways.
I also learned there are no bad or good emotions. Just emotions that are perfectly right and ok to feel.