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Who is responsible for IL gifts?
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Re: Who is responsible for IL gifts?
What about, I nag him constantly for a month to think of something but end up having to come up with something on my own?
Drives me batty but I feel like if we go his route, they won't get anything at all & then that reflects like negligence on *my* part & not his. Blah.
I even have to pester him to come up with a present for sprout. i mean, i refuse to let him be uninvolved in the gifts to his own son.
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SS - we don't get my FIL a gift. Shipping it is a hassle/too expensive. We just buy him stuff when he's here in the summer.
This year we'll get him something, which BIL will deliver. It will be small enough to fit in a suitcase, and I will probably be solely responsible for picking it out and arranging delivery.
Aaaaand that's the impetus of this question. Do they just not get that what they do reflects on us? I know he'll end up getting them GCs to the bookstore which I think is the lamest thing. They are well off so they don't need our money. And GC are such an easy way out. Poo. If I want something better, I have to think of it.
I'll add that option!
Stand up for something you believe in.
yep, I'm in the same boat. (except for presents for Warner, he's all about helping with those).
the main problem is that his parents are really incredibly difficult to shop for. we always end up spending too much money on something that they end up not using/liking. (like the year we got them a gift certificate for wine tasting classes in NYC. it was around $200 per person and if they ever used it they never said a word to us about it. this from the people who supposedly love wine and at one point were all about trying new ones. so frustrating!)
however, this year I did come up with a good gift idea that I really hope they will like...but with them you never know!
I just make it clear to whichever IL it was that DH's family equals DH being in charge of gifts. I've told MIL as much when he gave her a late Mother's Day gift last year. His mother, his responsibility.
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It is all on me! I think of an idea - he shoots it down. No new idea on his part. I think of another idea, get a maybe. Still no suggestions on his part. This goes on and on.
Having said that, we don't get "big" presents for his mom. So, while I am out shopping, if I see something I get it. This year there are about 10 little pressies for her.
The same for his sister, which I still have not found anything. Ugh.
We need a SS.
I come up with gifts for, and purchase for, everyone but myself and my MIL. He is responsible for coming up with ideas for the two of us, but I still usually wind up purchasing MIL's stuff otherwise he'd never get around to it.