Starting Over
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
**CLW**
Howdy! Hope you don't mind the advice that I gave you. Sometimes when I see "newbies" on the board, I really pull for them and want them to do well and not make the same fvcked mistakes that I did. Hope I didn't come off as condescending, but if I can offer a piece of advice that might help someone in the long run, I tend to give it.
2011 Races
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
Re: **CLW**
Hey!!
Like I said in the post below, I value the advice given here. As in everyday life, I take what people say and analyze the situation - then make a rational decision. Did I see the red flag about him living with his wife, nope - and that was flag that was waving in my face!! Now I do!! Otherwise, I'd just keep on doing what I was doing - getting hurt, etc. if it wasn't for the comments given here. The blinders are off now!! So keep the honestly coming, I'm bound to make mistake and I hope that when I post something that may cause for brutal honesty, I hope that you ladies give it to me.
Great attitude! I definitely don't know it all but hopefully I can help. There are nesties on here who don't like to take the advice given. While I can appreciate that no one is perfect and no one on here knows it all, it can be frustrating when they ask for advice and dont see GIANT red flags that people point out. If you don't want to hear advice, then don't ask for it!
You are in therapy, right?
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04
I agree with you. I think that if I didn't want to hear the advice, I'd simply just not post anything!! But I do because it is helpful getting advice from other people go ing though a similar situation. My friends are all either happily married or happily single and have no idea what the hell to say to me, they just want me to be happy. So again, I value the honestly and learn from it. That's all you can really do other than walking away!
I am absolutely in therapy. I've been going weekly since about mid-October and prior to that, I was going bi-monthly for about 9 months, individually and couples counseling.
Glad you are in therapy
I went through a similar situation with my friends where I was the only "single" one and the first one to go through the big D. So it sucked because no one knew what to say or how to act. It was really, really hard. So I can appreciate what you are going through.
FWIW, I started dating 3 months after separating from my XH and it was a DISASTER! I am a firm advocate on going on a "man-battical" for at least 6+ months after the move out/split. I think it honestly took me close to a year before I was in a good place to really be able to be in a healthy relationship.
3/12 5 mi -- 49:22 Pace: 9:52
5/1 Half Marathon -- 2:11:22 Pace: 10:01
5/22 10k -- 56:29 Pace: 9:00
5/24 3.6 -- 29:03 Pace: 8:18
7/10 15k -- 1:44:46 injured Pace: 11:14
10/29 5k -- 28:24 Pace: 9:04