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UO Thursday
A few minutes early.
I know there's no "right" way to grieve, but a work friend of DH's recently experienced the loss of her child. It's a horrible situation. It makes me tear up just to think about it.
That said, I think it's kind to express your condolences, and if Facebook is your medium for doing so, that's great. However, this is not the time for text speak. I am judging the hell out of responses that say things like:
"im so sorry for ur loss...be strong and keep lookn n God he want fail when u call on him"
OR
"Ny thing u need and I m here 4 u and ur family."
OR
"ur bby is n heaven now walkin w/Jesus. We luv u!"
For fck's sake, people. I try to avoid text speak altogether. I realize a generation below me might not. But if there ever was a time to type out the extra two characters in "for" rather than "4" or "your" rather than "ur," this is it.
If this is flammable, so be it.
(((Old lady 5th stops yelling at the kids to get off her damn lawn)))
Re: UO Thursday
What do you mean that's the wrong side? Tastes great to me!
Text speak bothers me too. Mainly because a lot of kids are growing up thinking that it's acceptable English, and a lot of adults are falling into the habit of not using correct English too, which makes it even worse. DH used to make fun of me because my text messages are all grammatically correct. I don't think I've used "ur" even once in my life.
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I judge the hell out of anyone who uses text speak, ever, in any situation. I don't care if they are 15 or 50. It's ignorant and I can't even read that ***.
My probably not very unpopular opinion is that I find it utterly ridiculous that we're still talking about temporary spending measures for this year in effing DECEMBER. That's beyond unacceptable performance from our lawmakers. I wish that we had a better way to penalize the folks we elected for that (other than not voting for them to return to office, because unfortunately I don't see the outcome changing in that arena).
My parents (each made a separate one) called this week asking why we were not coming home for Christmas. My mom was particularly upset because she wanted the entire family home since my older sister wasn't there last year. I didn't tell them we were going to Vegas because I knew that would only upset them more.
I don't feel bad about not spending time with family this holiday because we did it last year. Speaking of that year, it was horrible. I love my family but it is always more stressful spending Christmas with them.
We made a vow to do what we wanted this year and we are.
Also, I still don't know how we are going to break the news to them that we are in Vegas. I think I will send out a mass picture message with us standing by the "Welcome to Vegas" sign.
I watched Barbara Walter's 10 most facinating people special last night and I have a few comments:
1. I absolutely cannot stand Barbara Walters.
2. I find Hermain Cain incredibly articulate and intelligent and think that someone with a finance background needs to be in the Oval office. Maybe not him, particularly, but someone that understands how to (successfully) run a business. He is the American dream. His mother was a maid, his dad was..I can't remember, but he worked and worked and worked and really made something of himself and THAT is the kind of person we need in office.
3. I found BW's treatment of Hermain Cain appalling.
4. Even though Donald Trump is a bit coo coo (the whole Obama birth certificate thing embarrassed me as an American), I also think, not necessarily him, but someone with his finance background would be a good Presidental candidate. He has been there done that, filed for bankruptcy, recovered, etc etc - despite his hair - he is NOT a stupid man.
Donald Trump is definitely not a stupid man, I wouldn't label him intelligent either. He is a celebrity, that doesn't scream office of presidency. I think that it should be noted that the presidency is not the same as running a business or corporation.
The details of policy (both foreign and domestic) are not aligned with those of running a company. We have had a few presidents with a background in business and it didn't fare well for our economy (Hoover and GWB).
Lastly, if we think of running a country (American people) as business procedures that won't bode well for effective programs designed to stimulate economy... or the people.
Text speak is stupid. When people send me messages in text speak, I ask for them to translate. I've actually had people ask me why I use full words in text messages. Um, because you can read them that way. Duh.
I haven't been paying attention to all the political stuff going on - I paid WAY more attention back when the 2008 election was coming up. I just don't know how this country's going to bounce back from everything that's been going on the past few years [economy, lawmakers still trying to put together a budget etc.] and if anyone can do it.
Really? You don't think someone that has recovered from bankruptcy and has become extremely wealthy would know how to help our country that is...well, way beyond bankrutpcy at this point? I don't know, I kind of like the idea of "been there, done that" this is how it works. None of the candidates now, including our President (and prior Presidents), have any idea how the financial system works - which is why we are in the mess that we are in.
A lot of people seem to think that because someone is rich, that means they know what they are doing. Um, no. First off, our country isn't rich, second off, our country needs someone that knows how to recover and someone who has never dealt with these types of things would know how to work the system. Like I said, I don't think DT is the answer but someone that understands these things would be nice.
I also don't think a 32 year old CPA sitting in a crappy office OKC should have better knowledge of the IRC than the current President, especially when it comes to very easy stuff like capital gains taxes. For the record, I am not a tax accountant.
I said this a couple weeks ago and I still agree! Furthermore, that person may even have the same beliefs as you and just want to include Christmas AND new years. Oh em gee, let's get mad at them for wishing that we are happy, we certainly don't want anyone to wish that we are happy.
Maybe you should research a bit more on Donald Trump. Filing for bankruptcy doesn't always mean you are screwing your creditors.
Not always, but filing for bankruptcy 4 times is certainly not the model I want to see our country emulate.
He reorganized, there is quite a bit of difference. Regardless, and I am done with this after this post - I didn't say I wanted *HIM* as a President but someone with some business savvy which is not what we have had or ever had in the past and it shows.
I get that he reorganized and I understand that you didn't say you wanted him to be, merely said we have different definitions of what financial success / savvy look like. I don't think re-organizing negates the fact that you got to the point of bankruptcy multiple times. That's not exactly an option for our economy.
I received a business proposal at work today from a vendor addressed to Mrs. MyLastName. Granted, we had chit-chatted several times before so he knew I was married rather than assuming it, but I don't think my marital status is relevant to my job. It may be a little irrational, but being called Mrs. rather than Ms. in a professional setting annoys me. I don't think of myself as a Mrs.; whenever I fill out a form, I almost always choose Ms.
Also, I handle all the charitable donations for the household, between choosing the charities, selecting the amount to give, and actually giving it (I offer H input, but he doesn't care enough to do more than agree to my suggestions). I make all the donations in my name, since they're my causes. If I send in a check from our joint account pre-addressed with both our names, the thank you note/tax receipt invariably comes back addressed to Mr. and Mrs. OurLastName. I did all the work. The donation was in my name. My name is first on the check. H had nothing to do with it. Why does he get thanked first? It's petty, but I'm bothered by it.