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I have a question
We're in the middle of a divorce and it's likely going to court (I should know pretty soon). We're basically fighting over spousal maintenance.
Our house is for sale. The realtor is pressuring us to lower the price. I had this conversation with stbxh back in October and we agreed we would not do it for now. Then, stbxh emails the realtor without consulting me and signs the papers to lower the price of the house. I get an email every week now from the realtor reminding us (well me) that we should lower the price. I called her today and left a voicemail since she wasn't answering the phone telling her I was NOT OK to lower the price for now until I know what is happening with the divorce settlement.
As soon as she got my message, she sent an email to both me and the stbxh basically saying she doesn't want to be caught in the middle of the conversation and wrote down clearly my reasons for not wanting the lower the price.
I feel like she broke my trust and she shouldn't have sent my reasons to stbxh. Can she even do this?
Re: I have a question
Exactly. Make sure and your STBXH both know you aren't ready to lower, the price can't be lowered without both his AND your consent, and you will let them know when you are ready to re-evaluate your listing price.
I need to mention that even though STBXH and I had a face to face conversation about the price back in Oct. and we agreed not to lower the price for now, he emailed the realtor, without checking with me 1st and without including me in the email, with the signed papers to lower the price. Needless to say, when I saw that it was a red flag and I am now reluctant to make any decision if I don't know the big picture.
They both know they need my signature, hence why the realtor is sending me emails every couple days. She sent one last Tuesday and she sent another one today saying "Look, there is a house near you that just lowered its price!". It is annoying and frankly makes me anxious.
Is there an alternative you can do like assisting with closing costs? Its a great market for buyers with historic low rates, perhaps assisting with closing costs may open the market up to some buyers who didnt have enough cash to close?
Other than that, stick to your guns, make it clear to both parties you're not willing/ready to lower the price.
What about renting until the value goes up a bit? Is that an option?