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Sometimes I want to kick my teen...
Those were unfortunately the nicest words I could find for the time being. He has been a selfish little brat lately and the song is getting old. I've tried tuff love (restricting everything) and Ive tried giving him what he needs (and a little of what he wants). He is still argumentative, snooty, complains about EVERYTHING and I cant get it to stop. Ive tried to talk to him about what the real issue is and he just says, "I dont know. I can't control myself."
The latest was our trip to Seattle last week. We were gone for 6 days of fun and family. Had a great time, but what did he think? It was simply "whatever" because they didnt sell sweet tea and some places didnt have honey mustard.
I know he has been through a lot, and gosh he was doing great for awhile, but NOW he's reverted back to being a Jr-A$$. Nothing significant has changed in the past couple of months (other than the fact that he's suffering in one of his classes).
Sorry, I just had to vent.
Re: Sometimes I want to kick my teen...
How is it that my BABY is going to be 3?
BFP-2/25/11; 8 Wk U/S-3/25/11-No HB, measured 6.5 wks; D&C
We tried this, but it really ends up being more of a lecture from SO. Then my son says, "he hates me".
I've asked XH to talk to him and he's all "whatever Liz. He does it with me too. He just smack him around a bit. That'll straighten him out." Can you believe it?
Yeah, XH prob isn't the most reliable person in the world to try and put some sense into him since they are about the same maturity level, right?
Have you looked into the Upward Bound program or is he too young for that? I think the key to success if you're going to get him to join any type of program is to make him think it's his idea
How is it that my BABY is going to be 3?
BFP-2/25/11; 8 Wk U/S-3/25/11-No HB, measured 6.5 wks; D&C
His grades are fair, mostly As and Bs. He has one D in his reading class and its pretty much solely from not wanting to read. I even bought the books he's reading in class personally so I could read along with him. That hasn't helped too much.
As for this "stage" he is going through, I have a co-worker who has a 16 year old and she said that he is just now starting to come out of that stage, so I very much think it could simply be a "phase" he's going through. I just hope he comes out of it soon.
I would consider a program like Upward Bound or something like that, but between Student Government, Bowling, Chess and his social life, I dont think I can take on anymore.
Honestly, from the information you have given me, with decent grades (except reading, which *shhh don't tell my students* isn't a grad requirement and is basically just there bc they didn't pass FCAT) and a busy social life, DS will be fine in the long run. When you need to start worrying is when his grades take a dive and he starts schlumping around the house doing nothing. At this point in life parents are just not *cool* anymore and neither is *showing excitement*, especially for boys! Hang in there....my son is currently 9 months old and I myself dread the day when he is walking the halls as a student of my High School....and he should too with his goofy mom around.
PS: I want to hear more about SEATTLE. One of my favorite places in the world.