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ExBF is taking this breakup hard
He texted me tonight to ask if I was OK. I guess since I hadn't posted
anything on FB since before the breakup, he was
curious/worried/whatever. He said that it was hurting him, too, that he
cried for an hour after I left on Monday. I think he's taking it harder
than I am, actually, and definitely harder than I thought he would.
He said: It's rough right now. I love you, apparently, more than I
thought. I just don't know what to do. I'm pretty lost. This has
affected me more than I thought it would.
That breaks my heart :-(
Re: ExBF is taking this breakup hard
I agree with this.
The last break-up with a BF I had killed me. Not because it was so hard on me but because I saw how hard it was on him. I hate hurting people that I care about but I knew we were never going to work in the long run.
If possible best to have as little contact with him as possible. Distance yourself from him so seeing him hurting doesn't break your heart.
I also agree with this. At least for a while to have the emotions calm down. If you remain in contact, it can easily send mixed messages which is not fair for anyone.
This is where I am with my husband. In my mind, our marriage exists in the past tense, and that is how I talk about it (even though the paperwork is on hold until after the holidays, per his request). He's still making plans for concerts, vacations, CHILDREN even. And every time I bring him back to reality, we both suffer. Our new rule is that we will communicate by email only. The whole thing sucks. And I'm tired of the guilt, tired of being the biitch when his actions are why we need to end the marriage.